VII. Extra Credit: Quiz

Take one of these quizzes and write a one-page reflection on your results referring to at least THREE concepts in the chapter (10 points).

Quiz 1: Communication Patterns in the Family

Place a check mark next to each statement with which you agree. Then check your score to determine your family communication pattern.

Conversation Orientation

______ In my family, we often talk about our plans and hopes for the future.

______ We frequently talk as a family about the things we have done during the day.

______ My parents tend to be very open about their emotions.

______ I really enjoy talking with my parents, even when we disagree.

______ My parents and I often have long, relaxed conversations about nothing in particular.

______ In our family, we often discuss our feelings together.

______ I can tell my parents almost anything.

______ My parents often ask my opinion when the family is talking about something important.

______ My parents frequently say things like, “Every member of this family should have some say in decisions.”

Conformity Orientation

______ When anything really important is involved, my parents expect me to obey without question.

______ In our home, my parents usually have the last word.

______ My parents feel that it is important that they be the boss.

______ My parents sometimes become irritated when my views differ from theirs.

______ If my parents don’t approve of a particular behavior, they don’t want to know about it.

______ When I am at home, I am expected to obey my parents’ rules.

______ My parents often say things like, “My ideas are right, and you shouldn’t question them.”

______ My parents often say things like, “There are some things that just shouldn’t be talked about.”

______ My parents often say things like, “You’ll know better when you’re older.”

Scoring: For each orientation, a total number of check marks of 0–4 indicates “Low” and a total of 5–9 indicates “High.” High conversation/high conformity suggests that your family is consensual; high conversation/low conformity, pluralistic; low conversation/high conformity, protective; and low conversation/low conformity, laissez-faire.

Quiz 2: What Kind of a Friend I Am?

Think about how you communicate with, relate to, and behave toward your friends. Then check the statements with which you agree and total the number you have marked. Check your score at the bottom.

______ I strive to always maintain equal give-and-take in my friendship relationships.

______ I’m the kind of person my friends can talk with about anything and feel relaxed around.

______ I think like my friends do and share a similar sense of humor with them.

______ I don’t hold my friends’ mistakes against them.

______ I can be trusted by my friends to keep a secret.

______ I’m honest with my friends; I don’t lie or hold things back.

______ I can be serious with my friends, and I don’t make fun of them when they want to talk about difficult issues.

______ I’m considerate about my friends’ feelings, and I don’t do spiteful things.

______ I can take care of myself, and I have my own ideals and beliefs apart from my friends’.

______ I respect my friends’ needs for privacy.

______ I encourage my friends when they’re up, and I cheer them up when they’re down.

______ I’m generous toward my friends and not selfcentered.

______ I’m fun to be around when I’m with my friends.

______ I have an upbeat personality and stress the positive side of things when communicating with my friends.

______ I always keep my promises to friends.

Scoring: These characteristics represent the qualities people associate with close, trustworthy, and dependable friends. If you scored 11–15, you are exceptionally high on these qualities; 6–10, average; 0–5, low.