VII. Extra Credit: Quiz

Take one of these quizzes and write a one-page reflection on your results referring to at least THREE concepts in the chapter (10 points).

Quiz 1: High or Low Power Distance

Read each statement. Place a check mark next to the statements with which you agree. Then follow the instructions for interpreting your score.

——— There are few things worse than a person who doesn’t feel gratitude and respect for his or her parents.

——— What this country needs most is a few courageous, tireless, and devoted leaders in whom the people can put their faith.

——— In times of doubt, people should trust our country’s leaders to do what’s right.

——— Obedience and respect for authority are the most important values children should learn.

——— What young people need most is strict discipline, rugged determination, and the willingness to sacrifice for family and country.

——— Every person should have complete faith in some supernatural power whose decisions he or she obeys without question.

——— Young people sometimes get rebellious ideas, but as they grow up they ought to get over these ideas and settle down.

Scoring: If your total score is 5–7, you’re likely a high authoritarian; a score of 3–4 suggests you’re a moderate authoritarian; 0–2 indicates you’re a low authoritarian.

Quiz 2: Conflict Approach

Read through the statements, placing a check mark next to each statement with which you agree.

Collaborating

——— I try to investigate issues to find solutions acceptable to both parties.

——— I try to integrate my ideas with those of others to come up with a decision jointly.

——— I try to work with others to find solutions that satisfy both our expectations.

——— I exchange information with others so we can solve problems together.

——— I try to bring all our concerns out in the open so issues can be resolved.

Avoiding

——— I keep issues to myself.

——— I usually avoid open discussion of my differences with others.

——— I try to stay away from topics of disagreement.

——— I keep disagreements to myself to avoid hard feelings.

——— I try to avoid unpleasant exchanges.

Accommodating

——— I generally try to satisfy others’ needs.

——— I usually accommodate others’ wishes.

——— I give in to others’ desires.

——— I often go with others’ suggestions.

——— I try to satisfy others’ expectations.

Competing

——— I use my influence to get my ideas accepted.

——— I use my authority to make decisions go in my favor.

——— I generally pursue my side of an issue.

——— I sometimes use my power to win.

——— I use my expertise to make sure decisions go

Scoring: The category with the most check marks indicates how you primarily manage conflict. If you score equally high on two or more different approaches, you use more than one approach.

Colloquium 2. The problem Chapter 10. Relationships with Romantic Partners Theory I. Defining Romantic Relationships

1. Liking and Loving. Zick Rubin: Liking is different from loving. Liking is a feeling of affection for friends; affection is the sense of warmth and fondness for the other person, and respect is admiration for another person apart from how he or she treats you and communicates with you. Loving, in contrast, is intense emotional commitment with intimacy, caring, and attachment. Intimacy is a feeling of closeness and union. Caring is the concern you have for your partner’s welfare and the desire to keep him or her happy. Attachment is a longing to be in your partner’s presence.

COMMUNICATION SCHOLAR: Zick Rubin

2. Different types of Romantic Love. Passionate love – intense emotional and physical longing for union with another person with the following characteristics: (a) idealization of partner; (b) universal for all cultures; (c) has no gender or age differences; (d) for adults, linked with sexuality and sexual desire; (e) negatively related to relationship duration.

DISCUSSION STARTER 1: Is passion the critical defining feature of being in love? Or can you fall in love without ever feeling passion? And given that passion typically fades, is romantic love always doomed to fail, or can you still be in love after passion leaves?

Companionate love – intense liking with emotional investment and deeply intertwined lives. John Alan Lee: six different forms of love: eros (erotic), ludus (playful), storge (friendship), pragma (practicality), mania (obsession), agape (forgiving).

An important addition is due (Michael’s Sound Bite 10-1): John Alan borrowed these from none other than Aristotle! Aristotle actually named one more kind of love: filas (love for relatives). He does not view them as kinds of romantic love, either!