- •Table of Contents
- •Chapter 1. Introducing Interpersonal Communication Theory
- •I. Naïve and Scientific Knowledge (Michael’s Sound Bite 1-1)
- •II. Defining Communication
- •III. Understanding Communication Models
- •IV. What is Interpersonal Communication?
- •V. Martin Buber’s Continuum
- •VI. Principles of Interpersonal Communication
- •VII. Needs and Goals of Interpersonal Communication
- •VIII. Doing Communication Research:
- •IX. Issues in Interpersonal Communication
- •X. Learning Interpersonal Communication
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Driving Miss Daisy
- •Relationship Problem
- •1. Moving along buber continuum
- •2. Conflicting perspectives on communication
- •3. Identifying causes behind online problems
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Ethics of Interpersonal Communication
- •Quiz 2.
- •Chapter 2. Considering Self Theory
- •I. Components of Self
- •II. Sources of Self
- •III. Presenting Your Self
- •Improving Your Online Self-Presentation
- •IV. Social Penetration Theory
- •V. The Johari Window
- •VI. Self Disclosure
- •VII. Goffman’s Dramaturgy Metaphor (Michael’s Sound Bite 2-5):
- •VIII. Online Test of Your Johari Window (Michael’s Sound Bite 2-6):
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment
- •Focus on Culture
- •Film: Forrest Gump
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Your Self-Esteem
- •Quiz 2. Your Self-Disclosure
- •Chapter 3. Perceiving Others Theory
- •I. Perception as a Process
- •II. Creating Explanations
- •III. Experiencing Uncertainty
- •IV. Influences on Perception
- •V. Impression formation
- •VI. Algebraic Impression (Weight of Belief)
- •VII. Stereotyping
- •VIII. Improving Perceptions
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment
- •Focus on Culture
- •Film: December Boys
- •Relationship Problem
- •Improving your communication online
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Test Your Self-Esteem
- •Quiz 2. Test Your Self Disclosure
- •Chapter 4. Experiencing and Expressing Emotions Theory
- •I. Defining Emotions
- •II. Communicating Emotions
- •III. Types of Emotions
- •IV. Forces Shaping Emotions
- •V. Managing Your Emotional Expression
- •VI. Online Communication and Emotion
- •VI. Anger
- •VII. Passion
- •VIII. Grief
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Kramer vs Kramer
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Emotional Intelligence
- •Quiz 2: Testing Chronicle Hostility
- •Colloquium 1: The Game
- •III. Functions of Listening
- •IV. Listening Styles
- •V. Gender Differences in Listening Styles
- •VI. Culture and Listening
- •VII. Preventing Ineffective Listening
- •VII. Dialogic Listening
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Groundhog Day
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Identifying Listening Functions
- •Quiz 2. Discover Listening Styles
- •Chapter 6. Communicating Verbally Theory
- •I. Characteristics of Verbal Communication
- •II. Functions of Verbal Communication
- •III. Cooperative Verbal Communication
- •IV. Barriers to Cooperative Verbal Communication
- •V. Conversation Analysis Short Course
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: King’s Speech
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. American Dialects
- •Quiz 2: Deception Acceptance
- •Chapter 7. Communicating Nonverbally Theory
- •I. Principles of Nonverbal Communication
- •II. Nonverbal Communication Codes:
- •III. Nonverbal behavior classification according to Bill Ausmus and Joseph DeVito
- •IV. Kinesics
- •V. Vocalics
- •VI. Haptics (Tactilics)
- •VII. Proxemics
- •VIII. Chronemics
- •IX. Physical Appearance
- •X. Communicating Through Objects
- •XI. Communicating through the Environment
- •XI. Olfactory Communication
- •XII. Functions of Nonverbal Communication
- •XIII. Responsibly Managing Our Nonverbal Communication
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Extreme Makeover
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: m-Time or p-Time?
- •Quiz 2: Nonverbal Dominance Notes
- •Chapter 8. Developing Interpersonal Competence Theory
- •I. What is Interpersonal Competence?
- •II. Improving Communication Competence
- •III. Using Rhetorical Messages
- •IV. Improving Your Competence Online
- •V. What is Intercultural Competence?
- •VI. Preventing Intercultural Incompetence
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Devil Wears Prada
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Self-Monitoring
- •Quiz 2: Intercultural Competence
- •Chapter 9. Managing Conflict and Power Theory
- •I. What is Conflict?
- •II. Conflict in Relationships
- •III. Power and Conflict
- •IV. Power Currencies
- •V. Power and Culture
- •VI. Power and Gender
- •VII. Conflict Handling Styles
- •VIII. Barriers to Constructive Conflict
- •IX. Conflict Resolutions and Outcomes
- •X. Influence of Gender, Culture and Technology on Conflict
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Queen
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: High or Low Power Distance
- •Quiz 2: Conflict Approach
- •Colloquium 2. The problem Chapter 10. Relationships with Romantic Partners Theory I. Defining Romantic Relationships
- •II. Key Elements of Romantic Relationships
- •III. Influences on Romantic Attraction
- •IV. Technology and Romantic Attraction
- •V. Stages of Romantic Relationships According to Mark Knapp
- •VI. Maintaining Romantic Relationships
- •VII. Dark Side of Romantic Relationships
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Infidelity internationally
- •Film: On Golden Pond
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Love Attitude
- •Quiz 2: Betraying Romantic Partner
- •Chapter 11. Relationships with Family and Friends Theory
- •I. Defining Family
- •II. Types of Families
- •III. Communication Patterns in Family
- •IV. Maintaining Family Relationships
- •V. Dealing with Family Tensions
- •VI. Defining Friendship
- •VII. Different Types of Friendships
- •VIII. Gender and Friendship
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Legends of the Fall
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Communication Patterns in the Family
- •Quiz 2: What Kind of a Friend I Am?
- •Chapter 12. Relationships in the Workplace Theory
- •I. Defining Workplace Relationships
- •II. Workplace Culture
- •III. Supportive and Defensive Organizational Climate
- •IV. Maintaining Peer Relationships
- •V. Maintaining Mixed Status Relationships
- •VI. Workplace Abuse
- •VII. Sexual Harassment
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Exam
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Testing Maintenance of Peer Relationships
- •Quiz 2: Perception of Sexual Harassment
- •Colloquium 3: the paper
III. Functions of Listening
Listening to comprehend: when you listen to gain understanding;
Listening for support: when you listen to provide support to your friend, suspending judgment and showing concern and empathy;
Listening to analyze: when you listen to evaluate the message you receive;
Listening to appreciate: when you listen to enjoy the sounds of something;
Listening to discern: when you listen to separate some information from among other information.
DISCUSSION STARTER 4: Recall a situation in which you listened the wrong way.
For instance, a friend needed you to listen supportively, but you listened to analyze.
What led you to make this error? What consequences ensued from your mistake? What can you do in the future to avoid such listening mishaps?
IV. Listening Styles
Action-oriented listeners want brief, to the point and accurate messages; grow impatient with disorganized, long-winded or imprecise people.
Time-oriented listeners prefer briefness and conciseness; they allocate certain time and stick to their schedule.
People-oriented listeners establish commonalities between themselves and others; show concern for people’s emotions; demonstrate empathy, provide positive feedback.
Content-oriented listeners prefer intellectual challenge, complex and provocative information.
V. Gender Differences in Listening Styles
Larry Barker, Kittie Watson:
Women are more likely to use people-oriented and content-oriented styles of listening; they are generally interested in
Men are more likely to use time-oriented and action-oriented messages; they are more in a hurry to get to facts.
We should not automatically assume men or women listen in a particular manner because of their gender.
DISCUSSION STARTER 5: Do your preferred listening styles match research on male/female differences?
How have your listening styles affected your communication with people of the same gender? The opposite gender?
VI. Culture and Listening
Culture shapes and use and perception of listening styles; individualistic cultures appreciate time and efficiency, and they may have problems with people and content-oriented listening; collectivistic cultures attention to feelings and subtle messages is emphasized.
VII. Preventing Ineffective Listening
Overcoming selective listening: (a) broaden gradually the range of information you attend to in your encounters; (b) work to improve your attention.
Strategies to improve selective listening (Michael’s Sound Bite 5-2): (a) repeating the key ideas to yourself; (b) taking notes, (c) paying attention to transitions between ideas; (d) suspending your judgment, (e) creating a chain of arguments your interlocutor uses; (f) asking questions to add more information; (h) summarizing at signposts.
DISCUSSION STARTER 6: What personal and professional consequences have you suffered because of your selective listening? What factors led you to selectively listen in those situations? How could you have overcome those factors to listen more actively?
Eavesdropping: when situations are set up so that people could listen to private conversations. Eavesdropping occurs due to a number of reasons: (a) seeking to discover incriminating information; (b) trying to find what people say about you; (c) out of curiosity. It must be remembered that people sometimes say things they don’t mean to (a) impress others, (b) fit in; (c) draw attention to themselves.
Pseudo-Listening: occurs when people pretend they are listening and paying attention when really they do not.
DISCUSSION STARTER 7: When do you pseudo-listen to others? How do you feel and respond when you sense that someone has been pseudo-listening to you? Are there situations in which pseudo-listening is acceptable? If so, when?
Aggressive listening occurs when the only reason for listening is to find information to attack. This is done mostly to raise the attacker’s self-image in his or her own light. In this case the partners must (a) discover and deal with root causes of aggression, such as stress, relationship problems, or family problems; (b) if need be, seek additional assistance; (c) limit interactions; (d) remain polite and respectful; (e) use people-oriented listening; (f) try not to use aggressive listening as it only makes things worse.
Narcissistic Listening is self-absorbed listening that ignores what others have to say; people only engage in feedback as long as they remain in the center of attention; mostly negative feedback is shown when people stop attending to the narcissist.
DISCUSSION STARTER 8: How do you feel when people use narcissistic listening with you? Have you ever listened in a narcissistic way? If so, what led you to do it? Is narcissistic listening always incompetent, or is it acceptable in certain circumstances?