- •Table of Contents
- •Chapter 1. Introducing Interpersonal Communication Theory
- •I. Naïve and Scientific Knowledge (Michael’s Sound Bite 1-1)
- •II. Defining Communication
- •III. Understanding Communication Models
- •IV. What is Interpersonal Communication?
- •V. Martin Buber’s Continuum
- •VI. Principles of Interpersonal Communication
- •VII. Needs and Goals of Interpersonal Communication
- •VIII. Doing Communication Research:
- •IX. Issues in Interpersonal Communication
- •X. Learning Interpersonal Communication
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Driving Miss Daisy
- •Relationship Problem
- •1. Moving along buber continuum
- •2. Conflicting perspectives on communication
- •3. Identifying causes behind online problems
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Ethics of Interpersonal Communication
- •Quiz 2.
- •Chapter 2. Considering Self Theory
- •I. Components of Self
- •II. Sources of Self
- •III. Presenting Your Self
- •Improving Your Online Self-Presentation
- •IV. Social Penetration Theory
- •V. The Johari Window
- •VI. Self Disclosure
- •VII. Goffman’s Dramaturgy Metaphor (Michael’s Sound Bite 2-5):
- •VIII. Online Test of Your Johari Window (Michael’s Sound Bite 2-6):
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment
- •Focus on Culture
- •Film: Forrest Gump
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Your Self-Esteem
- •Quiz 2. Your Self-Disclosure
- •Chapter 3. Perceiving Others Theory
- •I. Perception as a Process
- •II. Creating Explanations
- •III. Experiencing Uncertainty
- •IV. Influences on Perception
- •V. Impression formation
- •VI. Algebraic Impression (Weight of Belief)
- •VII. Stereotyping
- •VIII. Improving Perceptions
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment
- •Focus on Culture
- •Film: December Boys
- •Relationship Problem
- •Improving your communication online
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Test Your Self-Esteem
- •Quiz 2. Test Your Self Disclosure
- •Chapter 4. Experiencing and Expressing Emotions Theory
- •I. Defining Emotions
- •II. Communicating Emotions
- •III. Types of Emotions
- •IV. Forces Shaping Emotions
- •V. Managing Your Emotional Expression
- •VI. Online Communication and Emotion
- •VI. Anger
- •VII. Passion
- •VIII. Grief
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Kramer vs Kramer
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Emotional Intelligence
- •Quiz 2: Testing Chronicle Hostility
- •Colloquium 1: The Game
- •III. Functions of Listening
- •IV. Listening Styles
- •V. Gender Differences in Listening Styles
- •VI. Culture and Listening
- •VII. Preventing Ineffective Listening
- •VII. Dialogic Listening
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Groundhog Day
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Identifying Listening Functions
- •Quiz 2. Discover Listening Styles
- •Chapter 6. Communicating Verbally Theory
- •I. Characteristics of Verbal Communication
- •II. Functions of Verbal Communication
- •III. Cooperative Verbal Communication
- •IV. Barriers to Cooperative Verbal Communication
- •V. Conversation Analysis Short Course
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: King’s Speech
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. American Dialects
- •Quiz 2: Deception Acceptance
- •Chapter 7. Communicating Nonverbally Theory
- •I. Principles of Nonverbal Communication
- •II. Nonverbal Communication Codes:
- •III. Nonverbal behavior classification according to Bill Ausmus and Joseph DeVito
- •IV. Kinesics
- •V. Vocalics
- •VI. Haptics (Tactilics)
- •VII. Proxemics
- •VIII. Chronemics
- •IX. Physical Appearance
- •X. Communicating Through Objects
- •XI. Communicating through the Environment
- •XI. Olfactory Communication
- •XII. Functions of Nonverbal Communication
- •XIII. Responsibly Managing Our Nonverbal Communication
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Extreme Makeover
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: m-Time or p-Time?
- •Quiz 2: Nonverbal Dominance Notes
- •Chapter 8. Developing Interpersonal Competence Theory
- •I. What is Interpersonal Competence?
- •II. Improving Communication Competence
- •III. Using Rhetorical Messages
- •IV. Improving Your Competence Online
- •V. What is Intercultural Competence?
- •VI. Preventing Intercultural Incompetence
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Devil Wears Prada
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Self-Monitoring
- •Quiz 2: Intercultural Competence
- •Chapter 9. Managing Conflict and Power Theory
- •I. What is Conflict?
- •II. Conflict in Relationships
- •III. Power and Conflict
- •IV. Power Currencies
- •V. Power and Culture
- •VI. Power and Gender
- •VII. Conflict Handling Styles
- •VIII. Barriers to Constructive Conflict
- •IX. Conflict Resolutions and Outcomes
- •X. Influence of Gender, Culture and Technology on Conflict
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Queen
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: High or Low Power Distance
- •Quiz 2: Conflict Approach
- •Colloquium 2. The problem Chapter 10. Relationships with Romantic Partners Theory I. Defining Romantic Relationships
- •II. Key Elements of Romantic Relationships
- •III. Influences on Romantic Attraction
- •IV. Technology and Romantic Attraction
- •V. Stages of Romantic Relationships According to Mark Knapp
- •VI. Maintaining Romantic Relationships
- •VII. Dark Side of Romantic Relationships
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Infidelity internationally
- •Film: On Golden Pond
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Love Attitude
- •Quiz 2: Betraying Romantic Partner
- •Chapter 11. Relationships with Family and Friends Theory
- •I. Defining Family
- •II. Types of Families
- •III. Communication Patterns in Family
- •IV. Maintaining Family Relationships
- •V. Dealing with Family Tensions
- •VI. Defining Friendship
- •VII. Different Types of Friendships
- •VIII. Gender and Friendship
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Legends of the Fall
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Communication Patterns in the Family
- •Quiz 2: What Kind of a Friend I Am?
- •Chapter 12. Relationships in the Workplace Theory
- •I. Defining Workplace Relationships
- •II. Workplace Culture
- •III. Supportive and Defensive Organizational Climate
- •IV. Maintaining Peer Relationships
- •V. Maintaining Mixed Status Relationships
- •VI. Workplace Abuse
- •VII. Sexual Harassment
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Exam
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Testing Maintenance of Peer Relationships
- •Quiz 2: Perception of Sexual Harassment
- •Colloquium 3: the paper
Chapter 8. Developing Interpersonal Competence Theory
DISCUSSION STARTER 1: How would you define interpersonal communication competence? Is it appropriate, effective, and ethical or some other set of qualities? Is competence just common sense?
I. What is Interpersonal Competence?
William Kupach, Brian Spitzberg: An interpersonally competent person can communicate consistently in three ways: by doing so (a) appropriately; (b) effectively; and (c) ethically (being fair to all).
Steps of gaining competence are as follows: (a) knowledge; (b) skills; (c) action.
DISCUSSION STARTER 2: Think of an interpersonal encounter in which different people expected very different things from you in your communication. How did you choose which expectations to honor? What were the consequences of your decision? How could you have communicated in a way perceived as appropriate by everyone in the encounter?
Mark Snyder: Appropriateness is the degree to which your communication matches situational, relational and cultural expectations about how people should communicate.
Some people are highly sensitive to appropriateness. They are called high-monitors; they act in accordance with situational expectations; they prefer situations with clearly defined expectations.
Other people are low self-monitors, they believe that people should communicate in the same manner regardless of the situation.
Overemphasizing appropriateness can backfire, and you can find yourself suppressing your freedom of choice to peer pressure and negative perception.
Effectiveness is the ability to use communication to accomplish interpersonal goals: (a) self-presentational goals of being perceived as a particular person; (b) instrumental goals (practical things you want to achieve in a particular situation); (c) relational goals (connections you want to build with your communication partners).
Being competent in this aspect means being able to make trade-offs among these three kinds of goals.
Ethical communication is the ability to make competent decisions in accordance with standards of moral behavior: (a) preventing harm; (b) treating others with respect; (c) stressing their value and worth; (d) being honest, kind and positive.
II. Improving Communication Competence
DISCUSSION STARTER 3: Read the story presented by Steve on p. 259. How would you respond to Ron? Do you think Ron would be more or less likely to get his work done as a result of your approach? How would other group members judge your skills as group leader, based on how you dealt with Ron?
Barbara O’Keefe: when we justify incompetent behavior, we send out messages of three kinds: (a) expressive; (b) conventional, (c) rhetorical.
Expressive messages have the purpose of conveying what you think and feel so that others will know.
Conventional messages emphasize effectiveness: people cite social norms, rules and obligations.
Rhetorical messages signal an attempt to solve the problem.
III. Using Rhetorical Messages
Address the situation in a neutral and non-judgmental ways; express empathy in the form of perspective-taking and concern; open doors to negotiation.
Rhetorical messages are more competent that conventional or expressive messages. Practice rhetorical messages by incorporating the four characteristics: (a) stating things in a non-judgmental fashion, (b) expressing empathy concern; (c) offer specific solutions, and (d) open doors to communication.