VII. Extra Credit: Quiz

Take one of these quizzes and write a one-page reflection on your results referring to at least THREE concepts in the chapter (10 points).

Quiz 1: Love Attitude

Call to mind your current or most recent romantic partner. If you haven’t yet had a “romantic” relationship, think about how you would feel if you were in such a relationship. Then, read the items below, and identify the ones with which you agree.

Storge

——— It is hard to say exactly where friendship ends and love begins.

——— Love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion.

Agape

——— When my lover gets angry with me, I still love him/her fully and unconditionally.

——— I would rather suffer myself than let my lover suffer.

Mania

——— Sometimes I get so excited about being in love that I can’t sleep.

——— When my lover doesn’t pay attention to me, I feel sick all over.

Pragma

——— I try to plan my life carefully before choosing a lover.

——— I consider what a person is going to become in life before I commit myself to him/her.

Ludus

——— I try to keep my lover a little uncertain about my commitment to him/her.

——— I enjoy playing the “game of love” with a number of different partners.

Eros

——— My lover and I have the right physical “chemistry” between us.

——— I feel that my lover and I were meant for each other

Scoring: Count the number of items you agree with for each love attitude. 0 _ low on that attitude;

1 _ moderate; 2 _ high.

Quiz 2: Betraying Romantic Partner

Read each statement and rate how often you have done the activity: 1 (never), 2 (once), 3 (a few times), 4 (several times), 5 (many times). Get your score by adding up your answers.

——— Telling others information given to you in confidence by a romantic partner.

——— Lying to a romantic partner.

——— Failing to stand up for a romantic partner when he or she is being criticized or belittled by others.

——— Snubbing a romantic partner when you are with a group you want to impress.

——— Gossiping about a romantic partner behind his or her back.

——— Making a promise to a romantic partner with no intention of keeping it.

Scoring: 6–14: You’re a very low betrayer. 15–23: You’re a moderate betrayer. 24–30: You’re a high betrayer.

Chapter 11. Relationships with Family and Friends Theory

I. Defining Family

Mary Anne Fitzpatrick: Family is defined as a group of people who create and maintain a mutual identity, emotional bonds and communication boundaries, through which they interact with each other and with others; who share a common past, present and future; and who may or may not share a biological heritage.

1. Families create a sense of unity through communication: conversations, stories, manner of dealing with conflicts;

2. Families are formed at early stages of our lives and therefore the ties are emotionally intense;

3. Families use interpersonal communication to define boundaries distinguishing them from outsiders: (a) set rules about information exchange, (b) restrict access; (c) maintain a fairly open climate.

4. Families share a history.

5. Families often share genetic material, therefore have similar (a) personalities, (b) outlooks on life, (c) mental abilities, (d) ways of relating to others.