5. Make up and dramatize dialogues with essential vocabulary discussing:

• a marriage of convenience: to get hold of sb, to hold tight, to decline to do sth, to present sb with smth, against all the odds, to pass off well, relaxed style, a bore, to be at odds, to break a habit, to impose one’s ideas.

• the marriage of people with different social status: against all the odds, to pass between, to present with, to relax, present in memory, gradual decline, to hold smd close, to get hold of smth, to break one’s word, to be at odds.

• the age of getting married: to bore with smth, broken home, imposing. manner, broken heart, self-imposed duty, broken spirit, to mention in passing, relaxing, presently, to pass off well, against all the odds.

Conversation and discussion family values

1. Read the definitions of the word “value”, choose the one you like and give your reasons.

What is a value?

• Qualities, characteristics, or ideas about which we feel strongly.

• Our values affect our decisions, goals and behavior.

• A belief or feeling that someone or something is worthwhile.

• Values define what is of worth, what is beneficial, and what is harmful

• Values are standards to guide your action, judgments, and attitudes.

2. This activity will help you learn types of values and identify your own ones.

Step 1. Imagine you have been given a check for $1000.00 to do whatever you like with it. What would you do with it? Share with the class what you would do with it. See conclusion on the next page.

Step 2. Say what things you did during the past week. What you choose to do with your time also has everything to do with what you value.

Step 3. Read the following statements and say whether it is about you.

Hypocrite is one who subscribes to one set of values, and does another. Immature is one who has not identified his values.

Step 4.Study the following characteristics of mature and immature people. Which characterize you?

Immaturity: Unclear values Drifters Flighty Uncertain Apathetic

Maturity: Clear values Life of purpose Meaning and direction

Step 5. Study the importance of values.

Direction: Values – Goals – Behavior – Self-value

• Values give direction and consistency to behavior.

• Values help you know what to and not to make time for.

• Values establish a relationship between you and the world.

• Values set the direction for one’s life.

Step 6. Study the sources of values and say what influenced your values.

Values are deeply held views of what we find worthwhile. They come from many sources: parents, school, peers, and people we admire and culture. Many go back to childhood. There are others we learn as adults. As with all mental models there is a distinction between our “espoused” values, which we profess we believe in, and our values “in action” which actually guide our behaviors. These latter values are coded into our brains at such a fundamental level that we can’t easily see them. We rarely bring them to surface or question them.

Conclusion: What you spend the money on has everything to do with what you value

That’s why they may create dissonance for us. Talking about our values together as a family can help us understand our motivation behind our actions.