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Дамона Хоффман — знаменитый дейтинг-коуч, ведущая подкаста Dates & Mates и штатный эксперт по любви

на шоу Дрю Бэрримор. Она вела колонки о знакомствах в Los Angeles Times и The Washington Post, а также выпуски подкаста Life Kit на NPR. Дамона сотрудничала в качестве эксперта со многими ведущими дейтинговыми приложениями, включая OkCupid, Match и Jdate. Живет в Лос-Анджелесе с мужем и двумя детьми.

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Введение

Мендель, Гальтон: Тест на ДНК. С чего все начиналось? О наследственности, изменчивости и эволюции. — М.: Родина, .

Ansari, Aziz, and Eric Klinenberg. Modern Romance. New York: Penguin Press, .

Julian, Kate. “Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?” The Atlantic, November , . https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/ar- chive/ / /the-sex-recession/ .

Mather, Mark, Linda A. Jacobsen, Beth Jarosz, Lillian Kilduff, Amanda Lee, Kelvin M. Pollard, Paola Scommegna, and Alicia Vanorman. “America’s Changing Population: What to Expect in the Census.” Population Bulletin , no. (June ). https://www.prb.org/wp-content/ uploads/ / /PRB-PopBulletin- -Census.pdf.

Skowronski, Jeanine. “All About the Equal Credit Opportunity Act.” Human Rights Campaign, April , . https://www.hrc.org/news/ all-about-the-equal-credit-opportunity-act.

Stepler, Renee. “Led by Baby Boomers, Divorce Rates Climb for America’s + Population.” Pew Research Center, March , . https:// www.pewresearch.org/facttank/ / / /ledbybabyboomers-di- vorce-rates-climb-for-americas- -population.

Steverman, Ben. “Millennials Are Causing the U. S. Divorce Rate to Plummet.” Bloomberg, September , . https://www.bloomberg.

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com/news/articles/ – – /millennials-are-causing-the-u-s-di- vorce-rate-to-plummet.

Thomas S. Eisenstadt, Sheriff of Suffolk County, Massachusetts, Appellant, v. William R. Baird, US ( ). https://www.law.cornell.edu/supremecourt/text/ / .

US Census Bureau. “Census Bureau Releases New Estimates on America’s Families and Living Arrangements.” Census.gov, November ,. https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/ /fami- lies-and-living-arrangements.html.

US Census Bureau. “Historical Marital Status Tables.” Census.gov, November . https://www.census.gov/data/tables/time-series/demo/ families/marital.html.

US Census Bureau. “Unmarried and Single Americans Week: September – , .” Census.gov, September , . https://www. census.gov/newsroom/stories/unmarried-single-americans-week.html.

Wolfinger, Nicholas H. “Contours of the Sex Recession.” Institute for Family Studies, March , . https://ifstudies.org/blog/contours- of-the-sex-recession.

Часть I. Настрой

Кондо М. Искры радости: Простая счастливая жизнь в окружении любимых вещей. — М.:Эксмо,

Birger, Jon. Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game. New York: Workman Publishing, .

Fisher, Helen E. Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray. New York: W. W. Norton, .

Часть II. Поиск

Стросс Н. Пикап: Правила игры. — М.: Эксмо-Пресс, .

Barker, Tess. “It Costs $ , a Year to Upkeep This Instagram Landmark.” Los Angeleno, March , . https://losangeleno.com/places/ paul-smith-instagram-landmark.

Blumberg, Perri Ormont. “How Married ‘Bachelor’ Couples Make It Work. Yes, Some Are Still Together.” The New York Times, March ,

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. https://www.nytimes.com/ / / /style/married-bache- lor-couples.html.

Fein, Ellen, and Sherrie Schneider. The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right. New York: Grand Central Publishing, .

OkCupid. “OkCupid’s Dating Data Center.” Medium, May ,. https://theblog.okcupid.com/okcupids-dating-data-cen- ter-b c c f .

Ortiz-Ospina, Esteban. “Who Do We Spend Time with Across Our Lifetime?” Our World in Data, December , . https://ourworld- indata.org/time-with-others-lifetime.

Potter, Daniel. “Texting Etiquette: A Brief Guide to Polite Messaging.” Grammarly, September , . https://www.grammarly.com/blog/ texting-etiquette.

Reis, Harry T., Michael R. Maniaci, Peter A. Caprariello, Paul W. Eastwick, and Eli J. Finkel. “Familiarity Does Indeed Promote Attraction in Live Interaction.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology , no. ( ). https://doi.org/ . /a .

Rosenfeld, Michael J., Reuben J. Thomas, and Sonia Hausen. “Disintermediating Your Friends: How Online Dating in the United States Displaces Other Ways of Meeting.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences , no. ( ): . https://doi.org/ . / pnas. .

Rudder, Christian. Dataclysm: Love, Sex, Race, and Identity — What Our Online Lives Tell Us About Our Offline Selves. London: th Estate, .

Strauss, Neil. The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. New York: Canongate, .

Strauss, Neil. The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships. New York: Dey Street, .

Wang, Wendy. “Marriages Between Democrats and Republicans Are Extremely Rare.” Institute for Family Studies, November , . https:// ifstudies.org/blog/marriagesbetweendemocratsandrepubli- cans-are-extremely-rare.

Wiseman, Richard. The Little Book of Luck. London: Arrow, .

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Часть III. Свидания

Fletcher, Emma. “Reports of Romance Scams Hit Record Highs in.” Federal Trade Commission, February , . https://www.ftc. gov/news-events/data-visualizations/data-spotlight/ / /reports- romance-scams-hit-record-highs- .

Gottman, John Mordechai. Principia Amoris: The New Science of Love. New York: Routledge, .

Huang, K., M. Yeomans, A. W. Brooks, J. Minson, and F. Gino. “It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology , no. (September ): – .

Perez, Sarah. “FTC: US Consumers Lost $ Million in Social Media Scams in , up x from .” TechCrunch, January , . https:// techcrunch.com/ / / /ftcusconsumers-lost- -million-in-so- cial-media-scams-in- -up- x-from- .

Prochazkova, Eliska, Luisa Prochazkova, Michael Rojek Giffin, H. Steven Scholte, Carsten K. W. De Dreu, and Mariska E. Kret. “Pupil Mimicry Promotes Trust Through the Theory-of-Mind Network.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences , no. ( ): E –E . https:// doi.org/ . /pnas. .

Ury, Logan. How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. New York: Simon & Schuster, .

Webb, Amy. Data, a Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match. New York: Penguin, .

Часть IV. Будущее

Платон. Пир. — М.: Рипол-Классик, .

Чепмэн Г. Пять языков любви. — М.: Христофор, .

Шварц Б. Парадокс выбора: Как принимать решения, о которых мы не будем жалеть. — М.: Бомбора, .

“Beating the Odds in Poker — Articles.” Bicycle Playing Cards, n. d.

Levine, Amir, and Rachel S. F. Heller. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — and Keep — Love. New York: TarcherPerigee, .

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