- •Introduction
- •Knowing Yourself
- •You will become self-aware
- •You will appear more considerate
- •You will become more empathetic
- •You will appear more intelligent
- •You will always be prepared
- •You will find more success, wherever you look
- •Analyzing Yourself
- •Finding your strengths and weaknesses
- •A guide to self-analysis basics
- •Other ways of analyzing yourself
- •Use five words to describe yourself
- •Write down your core values
- •Consider your most memorable childhood experiences
- •Write your story
- •Effectively Analyzing Others
- •People You Don’t Know Versus Those That You Do
- •The Three Fundamental Factors of Practical Psychology
- •Applying This Knowledge in Your Own Life
- •The Significance of Body Language in Determining Someone’s Emotions
- •Elements that Impact Body Language
- •Restrictions
- •Proxemics
- •Oculesics
- •Stance and Carriage
- •What Your Upper Body Is Communicating
- •What the Arms and Hands Are Telling You
- •What the Legs and Feet Are Saying
- •To What Extent Can We Control or Fake Our Body Language?
- •Aspects of the Face
- •Obvious and Subtle Expressions
- •Review
- •Answers
- •Analyzing versus Judging
- •What You See
- •What You Hear
- •What They Listen To
- •Habitual Behaviors
- •Who They Interact With
- •Proximity
- •Pitch
- •Speech Patterns
- •Fillers and Pronouns
- •The Significance of Swears
- •Summary
- •The Six Basic Human Needs
- •The Four Primal Needs
- •The Two Spiritual Needs
- •How are the Needs Prioritized?
- •Exercise
- •Worked Example
- •Scenario One
- •Scenario Two
- •Stranger or Friend
- •When People Use Negative Methods
- •What is a Needs Addiction?
- •Beliefs
- •Values
- •Attitudes
- •Beliefs, Attitudes, Values and the Relation to Six Human Needs
- •Applying your Beliefs, Attitudes, Values, and Needs
- •Bottom Lines
- •Followthrough & Practical Use
- •Transactional Analysis
- •Parent
- •Child
- •Adult
- •Berne and Freud
- •Identifying the States
- •Assessing the States in Action
- •Situations Explained
- •Complementary vs. Crossed Transactional Situations
- •Situational Examples
- •Example One
- •Example Two
- •Example Three
- •Example Four
- •Real Life Application
- •Putting Theory to Use
- •The Importance of Scripts
- •The Stroke Economy
- •The 5 Rules That Will Make You Miserable
- •Stroke Economy in Action
- •An Alternative Way
- •Real World Use
- •Situation One
- •Situation Two
- •Situation Three
- •Situation Four
- •A Man Under a Microscope
- •How the Concept Came to Be
- •So, What Use Does It Have?
- •The Persecutor
- •The Victim
- •The Rescuer
- •The Persecutor
- •The Victim
- •The Rescuer
- •How the Drama Triangle Looks Like in Practice
- •What Do We Gather from This Discussion?
- •Try This Yourself!
- •What Is the Winner’s Triangle?
- •Assertive
- •Vulnerable
- •Caring
- •What Do We Gain Out of This?
- •How the Winner’s Triangle Looks Like in Practice
- •Sarah
- •Nigel
- •Brenda
- •Images and perceptions
- •Smiles and good cheer
- •Ready acknowledgement
- •The group mentality
- •Ostracized by coworkers
- •Personal or professional
- •Refusal to make eye contact
- •Speaking to an audience
- •Evaluate the person you work for
- •Characteristics of a boss
- •The capabilities of your boss
- •What motivates your boss
- •The focus is on you
- •The interview is structured
- •Composure and warmth
- •Full attention on you
- •Negative or positive remarks
- •Impressive environment
- •Summing up
- •Examining the beginning
- •Read and analyze the signs
- •How do they treat others?
- •How do they respond to challenges?
- •How is their annoyance expressed?
- •Do they talk or listen?
- •Summing up
- •Chapter 11 — Cutting-Edge Techniques
- •Tiny and Inconspicuous Signs
- •Minute but Important
- •The Importance of Words
- •Easy Way to Assess Personality Type
- •To Conclude
Remember that emotions never stay inwardthey always have an outward manifestation, no matter how tiny. Just by careful observation, you’ll be able to tell how comfortable someone is, and whether they’re telling the truth or not. You’ll be able to look at tiny details like how someone moves their eyes or crosses their legs, and it will be meaningful to you. Do keep in mind though that everyone is a unique individual, and try not to take a “one size fits all” approach.
There are many advantages to being able to analyze people well. Namely, so that you can better relate to work colleagues and be more empathetic towards them. It can also help you to keep your supervisors happy, and understand how they cope with stress and deadlines. This knowledge should help you in social situations as well, as you begin to pick up on the subtle things that people leave unsaid. Hopefully it helps in dating situations, to help you make better relationship decisions.
When you understand someone’s personality type and why they react in certain ways, it can go a long way to minimizing misunderstandings and confusion about motives, leading to more peaceful interactions all round.
To Conclude
Thanks for making it to the end of the book. Hopefully you worked through the exercises and have come away with some practical ways of learning more about those around you. You should also have new insight into yourself and your own personality. These techniques can be used to improve the lives of those around you, as well as your own. It’s so important now that you apply your new skills in everyday situations, as the more you practice, the better you’ll become at it. It’s also vital to remember that none of these methods is a way of totally knowing someonethey need to be used all together and built on to form a complete picture.
As with most things, it’s a good idea to begin with knowing yourselfwhich is a lifelong procedure, but totally worth it. Watch how you react in various settings, see what emotions arise and fade at various times, and note how your voice changes in certain scenarios. As you become more self-aware, it will help you to become more sensitive to others.