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•Let’sDeniersRecap:will have far fewer sexual partners than Justifiers

• Deniers tend to have hidden secrets – only a real practitioner will learn these secrets

• Less likely to cheat, but also less likely to tell you if she does

• Deniers are much shyer about sex and talking about sex

• Just because she is a Denier, it doesn’t mean she’s harder to sleep with. You just need a different strategy

• Deniers are often judgmental and critical of girls who sleep around

AJustifJustifierers:has the same negative sexual experiences that a Denier has – but she uses a different mental strategy altogether… She will JUSTIFY the experience by lowering the significance of sex in her mind.

By lowering the significance of sex, it makes the negative experience less painful. This allows her to retain full access the memory, because it has a much lower intensity.

The mental dialogue will be something like “oh sex doesn’t mean that much” or “sex isn’t such a big deal” – and this dialogue aligns her full belief set to become congruent with that.

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Now as a consequence, sex actually begins to mean less to these women. She will give it up much easier, be more likely to do things like have sex in public, have threesomes with other men or women, and go into professions like being an escort or stripper. (Btw not all strippers are Justifiers – just a vast majority.)

And as such – having sex with a Justifier carries much less weight than it would with a Denier.

Justifiers, unlike Deniers are very sexually open and will sometimes have hundreds of sexual partners over their lifetime.

One big surprise to me is the sheer number of women that I met during the project that have been with over 100 men. Openly, and shamelessly. And these weren’t just cougars in their forties either – many of them were in their early twenties who were able to accumulate those numbers in college, often sleeping with a new guy every other weekend.

Just because a Justifier has a lot of experience and may be considered loose sexually, it does not mean that she cannot be an amazing girlfriend. In fact, if you can become her “prince charming” Justifiers can become incredibly loyal and safe from cheating. This is something I’ll talk about in depth when we get into the advanced strategies. Here’s a hint though – you will NOT become her prince charming if you are too focused on sex.

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That’s a huge difference. Because she has reduced the significance of sex in her mind – if you seem to desperate for sex, or make sex seem like a big deal, or make too many advances, or in general seem like too horny of a guy, she will lose respect immediately, and it’s usually something that’s nearly impossible to recover from.

And when they go with your advances, Justifiers will sometimes go so far as to think that hooking up was their idea! This makes them VERY open to sexual reframing, sexual prizing and falsely accusing them of being perverts and wanting you too much. Again this will be covered in depth in the advanced strategies later on.

And if you’re dating a Justifier – you have to be extremely vigilant. Justifiers love to test your limits (don’t confuse this with the testing dimension, I’m talking about testing YOU) but a Justifier will test you over and over to see how much of a man you are. You need to be VERY aware of these tests so that you can nip them in the bud by punishing them IMMEDATELY.

And it’s for that reason, that testers are a big challenge to many guys – but if you pass her initial tests, having sex with her is INCREDIBLY easy and takes barely any effort at all. If you get alone with her it’s RARE there will be any resistance whatsoever.

One final thought – do not make the mistake of thinking that a Denier is a good girl and a Justifier is a bad girl. It has nothing to do with morals or her overall intentions being altruistic or mean spirited. It is simply her individual defense mechanism to dealing with a very real and powerful emotional conflict. The key is not to judge it, but instead to understand it, and know how to use it in your favor.

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If you have ever watched the reality styled series “Girls Gone Wild” you’ll notice that during the critical time period when the guy is encouraging the girl to take a big step in revealing something like to take off her top, or escalate on another girl, or take off her panties, or pose, you’ll notice that he uses “Justifier” type language patterns that replicate the exact thought process that a Justifier would use in her own mind. Powerful stuff!

•Let’sJustifiersrecap:usually end up having many sexual partners over their lifetime, often over a hundred

• Justifiers tend to act on their sexual urges, and then Justify the reasons why they did it later

• Sex is not a big deal to Justifiers

• You need to punish a Justifier for disrespect IMMEDIATELY, or you’re in the friend zone

• If a Justifier is resistant to sexual escalation YOU MUST chill out and appear indifferent. If they sense you want sex too much, you’re finished.

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Realist:

The Realist is a woman who is Realistic in the sense that YES, it is possible

– especially with today’s divorce rates – that she will be not end up with a guy to provide for her.

So she is the type of woman who will focus on her studies and have very ambitious career goals. She will often be more logical in her thinking and I’ve met some Realists who were incredibly sharp in business.

Most of the Realists who we met were born with those natural urges to become housewives, but over the course of growing up and in childhood, have seen men who were incapable of taking care of their wives or families. It could have been their father, uncles, or husbands of their mother’s friends… Either the men left completely, or were just not suitable to be good supportive husbands.

And then they would also see these women who have their own careers, who were independent and seemed to be a nice positive reinforcement of the negative effects of incapable men.

So really – this dimension is all about upbringing, and that’s the reason why it’s the least likely to change throughout her life.

A few years back, I was in a situation where I was struggling financially, and I actually met a woman who was a Realist (looking back she was a NJR). And it turned out she had built and sold a business, and was very successful.

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Having this woman attracted to me, and dating her was a lifesaver… She would buy me nice new clothes, she would take me out to dinner, take me on vacations – and she even helped out with critical things I needed like a stove and refrigerator.

That is very typical when you get a woman who is both an investor and a

Realist…

Other Realists I’ve dated have all been very self-sufficient, they prefer to pay for or at least SPLIT the bill at dinner, and this is really enjoyable to a lot of guys.

Butinthebackofhermind,withthatself-sufficiencysheisalwaysgoingto haveabeliefthatyoumaynotbethereforheroneday,soshewillinasense alwayskeeponefootoutsidethedoor. And–ifsheisaTester,shewillbe evenmorelikelytoeasethatfeelingbykeepingotherguysinherlife.

A lot of Realists don’t believe in the idea of marriage. Of course many do

– but out of all the women who have told me they have no desire to get married, and don’t plan on getting married, they have ALL been Realists. It’s not that they can’t be in a functional, loving relationship, it’s that they realize what marriage really is – nothing more than a legal agreement which binds two people and has very little to do with love.

The real mark of a Realist is her self-sufficiency – which some guys might confuse with being masculine… but it isn’t. It’s merely because her fears of being alone are SO great that she resorts to that – but deep down she is still a woman and using the right strategy you can get complete devotion and have a very feminine and loving partner.

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•RecRealistsp: have a healthy fear of not finding a man to support them

• Realists focus on goals and advancement of their career

• Growing up, Realists had weaker male figures in their life

• Realists are powerful and can take care of you. They actually enjoy it

• Realists always have one foot out the door, unless you PROVE to them that you will be there for her

Idealist:

An Idealist maintains her IDEAL image of a happy man and woman living in a house with a white picket fence and a couple very happy kids.

And this image is so strong, that she is willing to overlook the possibility of it never coming true. She disregards those fears. Of course the fears will always be there – but they don’t affect the way she dreams, and relishes in her fantasy of having a perfect family someday.

Most Idealists were brought up around capable men who were happy in their natural supporting roles. Many Idealists came from families that stayed together, and the parents never got divorced, their dad was successful, and their mom was an awesome housewife and cook, maybe she had a job, maybe not – or she grew up meeting boys who loved her and really took care of her naturally.

As a result she would naturally be less ambitious about the future because she has a strong feeling that she would be taken care of.

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Dating an Idealist is one of the most satisfying, emotional experiences a man could ever have. She believes in TRUE love and if you ask her about it, she can talk about it, she knows that love is a real thing, and she will gladly share the vision of her ideal future with you.

Idealists love to daydream and often have a vivid imagination. Most of the Idealist strategies rely on taking advantage of that imagination and filling it with thoughts of the two of you being together.

One of the drawbacks is that an Idealist will eventually pressure you to get married if you date her for over two years. This might be great for some guys, but if you’re looking to be a real player and date a lot of women – be careful with that. You could end up breaking some hearts.

•Recap:Idealists most likely grew up around more capable men who were supportive and present

• Idealists have a vivid imagination

• Idealists will eventually look for marriage

• Idealists are very clear on their vision for the future