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Keep in mind, this was when I first started doing this job, right out of college, and she was a few years older than me. At the time, I intuitively knew

she would be comparing me to men from her past, and I somehow had to differentiate myself from them.

Investment

The Connoisseur will take the lead in investing in you if you are dating her. She is a Realist, and an iNvestor, so she will be looking for practical ways to contribute to your life. The challenge is in getting over the initial hump of her taking you seriously, due to her Denier element. Side-step this issue by getting compliance right away.

Again, you are going to leverage her own personality to get her in the habit of doing things for you. Entice her to show off her cooking skills, or have her pick a restaurant she likes that you have never been to. Have her pick you up on the first date. Take her on a picnic but have her bring a bottle of wine, some cheese, and chicken salad. She’s probably not used to a guy asking for compliance –find out what she is good at or interested in, and use that to garner compliance right away.

Potential

She will see her efforts to contribute as an investment in the relationship. It’s not so much that she is working to earn your devotion, as she is cultivating the relationship like a garden. Focus on this when you shape her to be loyal to you. Talk about your relationship, and how unique and special it is because of what she brings to the table.

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Again, notice how you are flipping the script. This is her game. She is initially screening you and comparing you to men from her past. Side-step right away by emphasizing your unique values and goals, garnering practical compliance on the first couple dates, and then flip the script by qualifying her on how she is different from other woman. What makes her different is what makes your relationship special and worth nurturing. This satisfies her core need for a bond with you; just make sure you leave out labels, and you will have leverage with the terms of your relationship.

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The Modern Woman (NJR)

Vision

The MW has pretty realistic standards for the men she dates. She’s not so much concerned with monetary or materialistic achievement. She is attracted to a man with ambition and a clear value map. She understands that it’s not easy to make it in this world – especially with the way the economy is, and how saturated every market has become.

Ultimately what will garner a MW’s respect is your respect for yourself. Even if you are living at home with your parents, make sure you emphasize your values, and your desire to achieve your goals. In conversation, emphasize the morality in your decision-making processes when telling a story. Tell her how you want to help the world be a better place, using your particular skills and interests.

Investment

The MW likely has her own dreams and set of values. The key to garnering her investment is to find common ground. Where do your paths cross? She doesn’t need a man to feel fulfilled. After all, she is modern – she has adapted to the times and likes to feel like she can make it on her own.

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However, she is still a woman. The key her is compromise. Don’t expect her to devote her life to you, but don’t neglect her need to contribute to your life for the purpose of strengthening your bond. The MW lives in the happy middle. She’d love to cook for you, help you make career connections, please you in bed – whatever you desire. Just make sure that she respects you by conveying your vision throughout the course of your relationship. She will want to do things for you if she sees that you are ethical and ambitious.

Potential

At some point, the MW will expect you to be monogamous, but her expectations are also very realistic. She has a high self-esteem, and won’t devote herself to a man who doesn’t seem to value her. At the same time, she knows that in modern times, men like to explore their options and take their time when getting involved in a relationship.

Really consider the MW for the long-term. It may be tough to give up all the other girls, but this may be the one you don’t want to lose. But she is not going to hang around forever while you sow your wild oats. She respects herself and knows she can get another man if she puts herself out there. Her devotion reflects your devotion. This is the one woman you can’t really play games with, so if you get involved with her, you’ll have to decide how far you want to go emotionally. But trust that if you treat her with respect and follow your path, she will be very loyal and supportive.

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Final Words

Remember that this guide is a map to get you started. Become more processoriented in your approach with women. Instead of trying to conquer each woman, explore her and appreciate her. Enjoy the process of getting to know each woman individually.

Exploration is the real goal, because it leads to understanding. When you understand women better, you will love them more, and it is that love that fuels your success with them. The more loving you are with women, the more the will respond to you and value your attention and time. When a woman cherishes the moments she has with you, because she feels loved when she is with you, she will be loyal always.