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ThereareWhat shouldmanyoutermsShapeandfor?conditions possible for each unique relationship, but ultimately we want to shoot for the one the gives us the most leverage. The formula for Shaping must create the interpersonal

dynamic of (her) Devotion For (your) Sex.

~ Shape everyone woman to be totally devoted to you, in exchange

for your sexual interest. ~

As this formula is structured using Pandora’s Box Axes, it may useful at this time to review the Applying the Pandora’s Box Axes to Cold Reading section once more.

III.WorldviewMindset:and Contribution Style

Because of her contributive style, the two of you make a great team

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Ready…Set

The following pages are organized by each of the Pandora’s Box Personality Types, with three Cold Read examples for each type.

The examples are longer, wordier, and more insightful than is necessary in a real-world scenario. This is to give you a thorough understanding of what is going on within each Read, so that you can mix, abbreviate, and improvise your Reads on the fly.

Use the principles laid out above, and reflect on WHY each Cold Read is used for that particular type.

When you understand the WHY, you can make up the

HOW on your own.

...Let’s go!

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The Playette (TDI)

1.There’s something about you that reminds me of myself. It’s like you don’t take people very seriously until they earn your trust. But at the same time you have fun. For me, I like to hang back and watch what people do, and decide who close I want to be with them. Most people let me down, so I’m definitely not trying to jump into anything serious when it comes to women.

2.There’s something about you…I think you show it on accident sometimes. You have this inner sensitivity. When I touch you I can feel a soft warmth under your cool, hard shell. I have my walls too, because when I give myself to someone, it can be really scary. But at the same time I want to because that’s when I feel most complete.

3.I love it when you get silly on me. I wouldn’t take you seriously otherwise. Because I’m gonna need your help when I take over the world. I’m gonna need someone to give me back massages. Oh and lip massages. You have the world’s best kisses. I’ll make you the Secretary of Kisses. Just don’t go kissing everybody you crazy girl.

The Social Butterfly (TJI)

1.You’re awesome. I hate it when girls are all clingy. It’s like I talk to a girl, just being friendly, and boom she follows me around the rest of the night. I hate that shit. I’m not trying to meet my girlfriend at a bar/party. I just want to have fun and talk to people.

2.Damn – you’re a smarty pants. I almost wrote you off when I first saw you haha. I love intelligent girls so that’s awesome. I bet most people don’t even notice because you’re so cute. Most wouldn’t guess that a girl

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with such a big smile would actually have something to say. I’m glad you’re someone I can actually talk to.

3.You’re crazy. I need you on my squad. We’ll kick everyone’s ass. We’ll hand out beat downs to bartenders when they make weak ass drinks. I’ll be like “Yo Jen (or whatever her name is), how’s your drink?” If you give me the Killer look I’ll jump over the bar Bruce Lee style. Can you karate chop? Show me. Oooh you’re a killer.

The Hopeful Romantic (NDI)

1.I’m definitely open to meeting someone special, but they have to actually be special – y’know? I think people jump into things before they really know someone. For me, I have to really get to know a girl and feel like she cares about me before I have sex with her. Because I feel like I’m just giving myself away otherwise.

2.I can tell you are sensitive about it, but you have a really warm feminine energy. I love it. I feel turned on just being close to you. What I like the most is that you don’t try to flaunt it – it seems like you even try to hide it. But your energy – the way you move, laugh, wait for me to touch your back before you move – it’s just feminine and sexy. Anyways, you were saying…

3.You know, the other day, I was actually feeling kind of down when I called/texted you. But when you responded/answered, I heard/imagined your voice and felt pretty good. Prrretty good haha. You have that effect on me. I think if I ever need to be cheered up you’re my go-to girl. Deal?

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The Cinderella (NJI)

1.Most people I meet are so shallow. They either want something from me, or they don’t even want to get to know me. It’s so hard to connect with people here (whatever city you live in). For me the most important thing when I meet girls is the same as with friends – I care about the people in my life and I expect the same in return…but people are strange…

2.You are different than other girls because you are intelligent – it’s your mind that makes you interesting and sexy, but I bet guys rarely notice that. You seem like the kind of girl with high aspirations. I can’t see you just coasting on your looks. You are too smart and motivated for that.

3.I don’t care how mad you get at me because I’ll still come and save you and throw you over my shoulder and save you. You will be kicking and screaming but I won’t even care because you’re my little lady. In another life maybe I’d be your prince... And you’d be in my harem! Nah just kidding. OK no, you’d be in my harem, but then I’d see that you were above the other girls and I’d make you my princess.

The Private Dancer (TDR)

1.I’m not unfriendly, but most people aren’t worth my time. I believe in treating people with respect, but I’m not the kind of person who just trusts someone right off the bat. You have to earn that from me. That’s why I don’t get all serious with women like most guys do. You have to just see where things go – if the person is worth your time, then cool, but otherwise, you gotta keep it moving.

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2.You have so much to offer, but you keep yourself protected. I know why though. On the outside you seem unapproachable and intimidating. But that’s because you have so much to give. And you want to give yourself. That’s why it’s scary for you. So you need to protect yourself. I don’t ever want you to feel unprotected when you’re with me – because that’s more important than anything else – that you are safe when you’re with me.

3.I want to taste your cooking. Most girls don’t know how to cook, which sucks for me because I’m always trying to get better at that. I think making new dishes is fun – even if you screw it up. I can see us making something realllllly good together.

The Seductress (TJR)

1.I hate how women get all serious on me all fast. I hope you’re not like that. I probably sound cocky and I’m definitely not – I’m sure you’ve had tons of guys better than me in bed. But it’s more of an emotional thing – like women think that just because I talk to them, I want to get involved with them. I’m single and that’s how it’s gonna stay for awhile. Sorry to let you down haha.

2.You’re funny…I bet you get a lot of attention for your body. But that’s not even half the story is it? I bet you have some stories. You look like you’ve traveled, or have stories…you’re ALMOST intimidating…if you weren’t so interesting. I bet you eat men up and now you’re spoiled. I think it’s cute.

3.So besides being talented in the ways of the Geisha…do you know your cardinal directions? That’d actually impress me. What I actually noticed about you first was the way you dress – you’re well put-together. Classy, but a little sexy mixed in. You have a great sense of style. I gotta take you shopping. And don’t try to rape me in the dressing room.

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The Connoisseur (NDR)

1. It’s hard for me to date because I end up not liking most people. I make

2.I think the first thing that attracted me to you was your appearance – not your body, but like…your image. You walk around like your above it all. But I have this feeling that once you let your guard down I’m gonna see your inner dork. You actually remind me of a good friend I have – how he was when I first met him. Only you’re a girl…and I’m glad haha.

3.I can tell you’re not just a silly girl waiting to get swept away. I bet you have some area of expertise that no guy can even hang with. What is it? (whatever she says) – That’s so cool. I love it when a woman knows something. You’d be surprised the kind of lame ass shit guys put up with. I know it goes both ways – that’s why I’m glad we are different.

The Modern Woman (NJR)

1.It’s tough for me seeing so many marriages fail. That’s why I only look for chemistry and it doesn’t matter who it is – I love women who are different, or similar in terms of interests or demographic or whatever – because none of htat matters – it’s all about: do I like this woman as a person and can I actually be friends with her regardless of what happens physically?

2.It’s so rare to meet a girl who is actually smart on your level. I love it. We

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have to be careful not to get into any political religious debates though. Let’s agree to disagree pre-emptively. I’m kidding, we can talk about whatever – I’m glad I met you. You think…and that’s so sexy in a woman.

3.I can’t believe I found a woman that actually knows how to do things like cook and find her way around town and ____(a skill she’s told you about ). I’m definitely digging that about you. Most women coast on their looks but there’s a lot of cute girls, just like guys I’m sure. That’s why I like you

– you are different and I can actually talk to you and do fun stuff with you.