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Now when I say a Tester DATES multiple guys – it doesn’t mean she is sleeping with all of the guys at the same time. Often she is only sleeping withone. ReallythisdependsontheSEXUALCONFLICT–whethersheisa denier or justifier – we’ll talk about that dimension next.

If I remember correctly – the girl who I mentioned who was sleeping with 8 guys was really only sleeping with 2 or 3 of the guys.

Often, she is merely keeping these guys as ORBITERS.

Testers have elaborate strategies to keep orbiters “in orbit” – or to keep stringingthemalongwhiletheysamplemanydifferentguyssimultaneously. And eventually decide which one they will keep for the long term.

Orbiter•TalkingStrate iesaboutinclude:sex, which hints at the promise of sex

•Baiting,orsuggestinghangingoutandthenflakingoutlastminute

– or only giving half commitments

• Appearing helpless which motivates men to want to protect her and in fact the vulnerability is a huge attractor for men.

• Pretending to distrust a guy or accusing him of being a player as a tactic to delay sex.

• Always trying to maintain the upper hand in the relationship. i.e. waiting for long periods of time before she returns phone calls and so forth. She can afford to do this because she has plenty of backup guys ready.

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These strategies are extremely powerful, and as men we have to be especiallycarefulofthem. It’sbesttoknowagirlisaTesterandtreatheras such – don’t take it seriously OR implement one of our advanced strategies to convert her.

•Let’sDon’trecarep aboutTesters:finding the one perfect guy. They get what they need from a combination of guys

• They have multiple guys to feel significance, to feel validated and wanted

• She’s not always sleeping with all of them

• She has sophisticated strategies to keep guys “in orbit”

• Testers can be converted into Investors if you have the right skills

SoLet’swhiletalkaaboutTesterInvestors:is indifferent to really finding that one “perfect guy” an Investor DOES have getting the perfect guy in the back of her mind. However – it’s not that she finds the perfect guy and then decides to stick with him – it’s that she is trying to FIX him. She sees that he has potential. The guy has POTENTIAL to be perfect for her. And that is what keeps her devoted to him.

She will usually have ONE THING she is trying to “change” so that he becomes perfect for her. But here’s the kicker – once she does get him to change that one thing – her interest usually goes right down the tubes.

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Becauseforher–thefeelingofhavingsomethingtoworkon,somethingto “fix”iswhatkeepsherinterestedandattracted. Thatwillplayheavilyinto our in depth strategies for attracting an Investor.

Investors make GREAT girlfriends – that much is true. And well, Testers can be a lot of fun, but if you want to change them into an Investor, that is goingtotakeadifferentstrategy-whichwe’lldiscusslaterintheprogram. What’s even more interesting is that an Investor will stay with a guy until she is CONVINCED he is not the one. The key word – being convinced. She usuallyhastobeconvincedBEYONDASHADOWOFADOUBTthatheisnot theone.Andifsheisconvinced,shewillmoveontothenextguy,sometimes with a testing small phase of in between them.

And an Investor has also suffered some kind of romantic loss – but does NOT feel cheated or betrayed – either she had to move away from a guy she really loved, or lost him in some other way – OR and this is a big one – blames HERSELF for the loss.

And what she is doing by investing now is she is somehow proving to herself that she CAN create the perfect relationship by helping a guy step into a role that isn’t necessarily natural for him.

She may feel supportive, motherly, nurturing, important, and needed. Those are the emotions that drive her.

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•SoShel t’swantsrecaptohaveIn stors:the perfect guy – but is really looking for POTENTIAL

• She tends to only date one guy at one time and invest her time and energy in him

• She prefers fewer relationships, but longer relationships

• In most cases, if she is successful in FIXING you, she loses interest (no more fun)

• She will stick around unless she is CONVINCED you’re not the one, then moves on

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Imagine being in high security prison for rapists, where the average guy in there is seven feet tall and three hundred and fifty pounds.

Ok – now, that is sometimes a DAILY experience for women, and as such they have developed very sophisticated mental frameworks to keep themselves in check.

In addition women HAVE had very scary encounters with men, and I don’t want to get too in depth about this but basically they will get intimidating looks from guys, unwanted advances, guys (sometimes close friends and family members) trying to touch her, take their dick out and of course, unfortunately this goes all the way up to full out rape and sexual assault. Women will often recall at least one, but often more, traumatic events in relation to men and sex.

But on the other hand – just like us, sex feels VERY GOOD for women – and they want it… so this creates a VERY strong conflict for her, and one she must reconcile.

She does make the conflict easier to deal with by either DENYING, or

JUSTIFYING.

Let’s start with Deniers.

A Denier will essentially BLOCK out and remove those negative experiences from her memory. She will literally believe they didn’t exist. That is why many cases of molestation, sexual harassment and rape go unreported. Her mental mechanism prevents her from confronting the memory.

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This allows her to still view sex as an incredibly powerful, positive and pleasurable event. In my experience, and in the experience of many of my trainers, Deniers are much more immersed in sex, and go a lot deeper into the feelings than Justifiers do.

And for that reason – it can be a more satisfying relationship in many ways. Having sex with a Denier is more special and unique because they have had far fewer sexual partners.

Quite often Deniers have a strong religious background as well. The religious training tends to compartmentalize the different areas of her life, and she will have much stronger mental filters to keep things separate. This allows Deniers to have a tendency to sometimes live double lives, and do so very effectively.

I once dated a girl who was a Denier, and I was with her for a full five years before finding out that she was once raped by a guy many years before. She never included this incident when she talked about her sexual past and did not count it when she told me how many guys she was with. Now of course I never held this against her, and in fact I was very understanding… But what’s interesting is this: It wasn’t until I started this research and had a very deep understanding of the female mind that she brought it up... And it was something she sensed in me – it wasn’t that the project prompted me to ask her about it.

And that is something that you can expect to happen in your life as well… as you get deeper into this system, you will find women becoming

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more and more open and honest with you. They will sense that you “are one of them” and things that she would NEVER tell other guys will be put on the table.

And no, it’s not all stuff you don’t want to hear – there are some AMAZING benefits to being in this “secret society”. Women will be much more open to letting you have multiple relationships, casual / no strings attached relationships, and they will feel much more comfortable showing you the full spectrum of their sexuality.

That’s beside the point. Let’s get back to Deniers. There are definitely some downsides to Deniers. First of all, and this applies to ALL women but women, but women will sometimes be more likely to lie to you the more they like you.

Why? They lie because they can and they will be more concerned with maintaining a certain perception if they like you. There’s more to lose if you don’t approve of their image.

And – if they cheat (which is actually less likely to happen than with a Justifier) they will be FAR less likely to let you find out. Usually it will just be a onetime thing, and they will suppress the memory as if it never happened.

That is something that women are MUCH better than men at. They are very aware of how they are being perceived at all times – especially Deniers.

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Extreme Deniers will sometimes even pretend to be “grossed out” by sex or by other girls who have more partners than them.

They will call other girls sluts, be very judgmental and critical of women who have had sex with just 10 or more partners. The average Denier will usually sleep with 15 or less men in her entire life. That may seem like a lot, because of what I just said, but you have to realize that most of those accumulate as she gets older.

Women have a tendency to become more and more like Justifiers as they get older. Their issues with sex get worked out and resolved slowly as time goes on, and they become more open to casual encounters. We call this the “Cougar effect”. You know what I’m talking about…

Just because a woman is a Denier, it does NOT mean it will take a long time to sleep with her. When we get into the advanced strategies, I will show you why it is actually good to sleep with a Denier quickly, and I’ll give you some specific techniques for doing exactly that.

Another reason why these types of women are called Deniers is they do exactly that – they Deny. And specifically they Deny your sexual advances. But they do it in a very specific way. The will use a “not yet” approach, but stick around. You can over escalate and they will continue to keep seeing you. That’s a very big difference between Deniers and Justifiers.

To a Denier, having sex can sometimes feel like they are losing something. Because they sometimes associate sex with pain and emotional loss, if you haven’t laid the proper groundwork, they will withhold sex to maintain their power in the relationship.