Vin DiCarlo - Pandoras Box (Complete PUA System)

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Keep that in mind as you read this guide. Everything laid out is meant to convey to women that you think differently than the average guy because you are interested in a mutually beneficial experience. You want to have fun with her, get to know her, relax with her and show her that she is safe with you.

Overview

This guide first details how each Line in Pandora’s Box affects your dating strategy. The second section of this guide is organized by each type, providing an overview of key concepts and examples of application. And it’s worth repeating that moving forward, your mindset for dating women is to become friends. Consider what that means if sex is included in this intention.

It’s important to note here that the definition of “date” can mean simply hanging out with a woman. Using this definition, if you go to the store with a woman you have been sleeping with, that would be a “date.” However, I’m sure you wouldn’t call that a date. Let’s say that, for the practical purposes of

this guide, a date is an arranged meeting with a woman you have not slept with.

New Rules

There are a few keys to successful dating that apply universally to all women. Here’s the rundown:

Keep it cheap, but don’t look cheap. There’s a direct correlation between how much money you spend and how long she makes you wait for sex. Don’t appear to be trying to impress her with money, or your expertise in wine (I remember telling one woman, “I don’t know shit about wine so you’re on your own there. I can tell you about beer though!”)

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Always have a second venue/activity in case she needs more time to get comfortable with you. For some women, one “episode” with you isn’t enough for her to get comfortable enough to allow her arousal to manifest. Use your judgment and go to a second place before taking her to your place.

Get the woman back to your place (or wherever you can be alone) within two dates. You don’t necessarily have to sleep together, but the longer it takes, the bigger a deal it becomes. (We have other resources that discuss this in-depth, but if you and she have fun together, it shouldn’t take more than a simple invitation to bring her back to your place.)

If you don’t have your own place, I’m not gonna sugar coat this: work on that! Having roommates is fine, especially in expensive areas like NYC, but if you live with your parents and it would be inappropriate to bring a girl home, it’s time to move out, or get a car with a big back seat (and I’m only half-joking about that). Of course it’s possible to go to her place – this is the easy solution, but it’s an unreliable strategy.

The best ideas for dates come from the initial interaction, or when you follow up on the phone. If you can find an interest you both share, or she mentions an interest she has that you can turn into a date, go with it. This ensures it will fit her personality, and also, that you were really paying attention to her (very attractive to women).

Touch women in a protective, chivalrous way on dates. Women love this and use it as a gauge for the kind of man you are, and what you’ll be like in bed. Take her hand as you cross the street, open doors and guide her in by touching her lower back, take her coat, gently guide her with your hands as you walk or change directions.

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Time Line

The Time line is most relevant when deciding what activities you do with a woman on the first couple dates. Testers don’t like too much conversational intimacy right away, so a more physically engaging activity where the two of you are playing a game works best. Any event, including a sports game on TV, is fine.

As long as you can go through an experience that engages your emotions, without feeling pressure to talk to each other, you will have a great date with a Tester. You could go to a street festival, walk through a fun shopping district, or go to a bar and play pool. The key is to have fun, without any romantic pressure.

iNvestors prefer to converse so they can get to know the guy and find out if there is long-term potential. The best places to go are quiet, cozy places to sit, talk, and enjoy some a good drink or bite to eat. Remember to never try to impress the woman – this applies to the venue as well. Don’t go to the most expensive wine bar.

Pick a place that’s cozy – a cool dive bar or greasy spoon allows the two of you to be more authentic, and it also shows that you aren’t interested in buying your way into her pants. Pick a place that’s down to earth so that she feels it’s ok to let her guard down and be herself. When she feels that you like her for who she is, she will become very sexually receptive.

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Sex Line

The Sex line determines how many dates or venues it will take before she will sleep with you. A Denier will likely want to wait as long as possible before getting physically intimate. There are two ways to deal with this. On the first date, you can take her through a range of experiences, or “episodes,” creating the perception that you and she have gone through a lot together.

If you plan things right, it’s likely she has never been on a date with such a buildup of emotional momentum. If you can capitalize on this at the end of the night, you will immediately flip the script and make her feel intense feelings for you. It is not in the Denier’s reality that she will sleep with a guy who hasn’t proven himself to her. If her emotions carry her away and she has sex with you, she will rationalize that it’s because you are very special to her.

The alternative is that you go on many dates with a Denier before she’ll sleep with you. So it’s either the first date, or the tenth.

On the other end of the spectrum are Justifiers. Justifiers are used to men wanting them for sex, and take charge of this by indulging in their own desires relatively quickly. This way, they at least control their own bodies. You’ll want to leverage this by delaying sex a little while after it’s clear that the Justifier will sleep with you. Instead of jumping into bed, treat her like she’s special by going on one more date.

Also, get compliance from her on all your dates. Let her know that you aren’t trying to get sex from her. You are more focused on how she can contribute to your life in a positive way. Sex can’t seem like it’s more important to you than it is to her.

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Relationship Line

The Relationship line determines what you talk about, and the role you expect her to play in your activities. For a Realist, you should structure an activity where she can contribute and show her value as a woman. Any scenario where you and she are working together for a common goal is excellent. Even better would be giving her an opportunity to teach you something, or do something for you, e.g. cooking, or helping you cook.

With a Realist, you’ll also want to joke around and keep her in the moment as much as possible. The Realist can be a worrier, and psych herself out of a good time. An Idealist ruminates too, but is less likely to get into a negative rut, because she isn’t as concerned with controlling outcomes. Get the realist laughing, and keep the conversation light.

Idealists want to be swept off their feet. This means that whatever activity you plan, make sure she plays a passive role. Make the activities a surprise, lead her around, show her something she’s never seen before (no not that you cheeky bastard). An out-of-the-way restaurant, or an exhibit at the zoo are opportunities for you to give her new experiences.

With Idealists, talk about your goals and aspirations. It’s good to do this with all types of women, but emphasize your passions, talk about your daydreams, but don’t give too many personal details about yourself. Talk about the man you want to be, and the things you want to do.

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Playette (TDI)

By the lines

Tester The Playette prefers a light, fun activity where she won’t feel pressure to make conversation. She will have more fun doing a physical activity. Make sure it’s light and not too intense.

Denier You should set up two or three activities for the first date, and lead her through several experiences. Have a non-sexual reason to go back to your place at the end of the night. If you don’t sleep with her, you’ll probably have to wait about four more dates before you get another chance.

Idealist You should take a very strong lead and have everything planned out. Also expect to pay for everything on the first date. As long as you keep it cheap, this shouldn’t be a bid deal.

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Date ideas

*Plan on 2-3 activities for a first date with Deniers

•Go for a walk in a pretty natural setting, like a public park (don’t go hiking in an unpopulated area.)

•Go to your favorite sports bar and play pool.

•Take her to the arcade and play a bunch of games together.

•Get a group of people for a trip to the beach (she probably won’t want to get in a bikini if it’s just you and her).

•Take her to a wine-tasting even, and go for a walk outside afterwards.

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Social Butterfly (TJI)

By the lines

Tester The SB is the quintessential party girl. It will probably be a little difficult to get her on a date as SB’s have a lot going on, and are somewhat flakey. Keep it super casual – she’ll probably prefer to bring her friends to meet up with you and your friends. Sports events are great for the SB. She’s likely younger (college age), so any event on campus or near her home makes it easy for her to meet up with you. One more thing – don’t plan any pretentious, intellectual dates (like going to a museum). You’ll get further by offering to smoke a joint. This girl likes stimulation and wants to be silly.

Justifier The SB is horny and will put up little resistance if you make a move. The key is to not show much sexual interest at first – just have fun and stay relaxed. At the end of the date, get her alone (your place, or wherever you are at) and pull her in for the kiss. The SB is an exception to most Justifiers, because she is young and super horny. If she doesn’t think you will fuck her, she will get bored.

Idealist Again, you’ll need to run the show. Move her around, tease her, have a plan for everything you’re going to do. Also, be ready to improvise and try something unplanned. If you spot on opportunity to see or do something interesting, jump on it and bring her with you. She needs physical and emotional stimulation.

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Date ideas

•Watch a local sports team at a fun bar

•Go to a sporting event

•Play pool or darts a sports bar

•Bring your friends to meet hers at a dance club

•Music concerts (or a local band playing at a bar)

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Hopeful Romantic (NDI)

By the lines

iNvestor The HR is looking at your long-term potential. If she can’t have a conversation with you, she’ll be in doubt. It’s important that you create opportunities to look each other in the eyes, talk about yourselves, and ask

questions. A quiet spot with aesthetic appeal, or chill music in the background is perfect.

Denier She will put the breaks on sexual advances, unless you can get her emotions really ramped up and then make a powerful move to the bedroom. Keep the touching light, focusing mostly on protecting her and guiding her. As the night comes to a close, pull back on the escalation. Get her back to your place. When you are alone, approach her from behind, hold her, and begin kissing her neck. Turn her around and kiss her on the mouth. If she turns away, follow her lips. Be careful – as always, no means no. But it’s good to be a little aggressive at the right time. Just remember what I send – this is all about a mutually beneficial, fun experience. It’s your responsibility to pay attention to her comfort level.

Idealist With the HR, you’ll need to be in control and know where you are going at every step. She may be somewhat timid or fickle about trying new things. This is great because you can push her just past her comfort zone and have new experiences. Don’t take “no” for an answer when it comes to trying new food, or going to a place that’s not in her “scene.” As you lead