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1Denier. You /areJustfriendsfier with a girl and she talks about sex very openly? She doesn’t seem to get embarrassed talking about sex at all. Denier or Justifier?

2. Youlikeagirl,andshedoesn’ttendtodressveryprovocativelyortoget a lot of male attention, you’d say she’s a bit more casual, and reserved in her appearance. Which one would you say she was?

3. Thisgirlwhoisafriendofafriendtendstobecomfortabletakingsome risks,forexamplejumpinginacarwithaguyshedoesn’tknow,orshe’s got a tattoo, and smokes. Denier or Justifier?

4. This special girl you really like has a really strong religious background, it seems to have affected her really strongly, and there was a really strong parental influence pushing religion hard onto her. Which one do you think she is?

5. There is this girl you’ve known for a while, and she’s had a fair few partnersforherage.She’sinherearlytwenties,andshe’salreadymore than 15 to 20 partners that you know about. Denier or Justifier?

6. You know two girls from college and something bad happens in both their lives – for example they get a bad grade – one of them tries to distract herself from it, and not want to talk about it, and the other one says “Well I don’t need to learn biology anyway” or “It’s because my professor is a jerk.” Which is the Denier and which is the Justifier?

7. This girl you like is a stripper, is she more likely to be a Justifier or Denier?

8. You hear two different girls talking about a guy who tried to hit on her. One was turned off by a guy who kept trying to go sexual when she wasn’t interested at that particular time, and it turned her off, and the

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other had sex with a guy after he was really persistent. Which one is a Justifier and which one is a Denier?

9. You meet a girl and she seems to test you a lot to see how much of a “man” you are. Justifier or Denier?

10.Agirl you like isreally critical ofgirls whodressrevealing orwhosleep around openly calling them “sluts”, which type do you think she is?

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1Realist. You like/ Ideala girl,st and her studies and career are extremely important to her. She is very proud of being a good student, and really enjoys talking aboutherstudies,andherpotentialcareer.IssheisaRealistofIdealist?

2. Youknowagirl,andshetendstorelyonherfriendsabittohelpherout. She seems a little helpless sometimes, crashing at her friend’s houses, and guys seem to support her sometimes. Realist or Idealist?

3. You have a female friends and she’s really clear on her life ambition. She’s already planned her wedding, and would really like to have kids andsettledown,andsheevenknowshowmanypetsshewantstohave. Which one would you say she is?

4. Youknowtwogirlsatwork,andyouheardthemhavingaconversation. One was saying that she thought women are empowered and can be just as successful as men and the other mentioned that she thought men and women have different roles. Which one is Realist and which one is Idealist?

5. Okay, two friends of yours had very different teenage years. One had a more affluent upbringing and was a bit spoiled; the other had a job throughout high school and had to work pretty hard for her money. Which one is more likely to be Idealist, and which one is more likely to be Idealist?

6. Is her choice of study something that has a definite career waiting for her when she graduates? Or is it something she does just because it’s interesting and she is passionate about it. Which one is Idealist, and which one is Realist?

7. Does she work a fairly low-status job and seem really keen to settle down, have children and get married? What would you say she is more likely to be?

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8.If a woman has a really strong ambition to achieve a really high goal or tomakesomethingreallysignificantofherlifeindividually,whatwould that indicate to you?

9.How important does guys and dating seem to her as a priority right now when compared to her studies, career or ambitions? What’s your opinion on that one?

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The Playette (Tester – Denier – Idealist)

Personality Profile

OTheverviewPlayette is a combination of Tester, Denier, and Idealist. She is like an iceberg. There is so much beneath the surface, and it’s worth

exploring! The Playette is not always easy to recognize. That’s kind of the point with this girl. She doesn’t wear her emotions on her sleeve, and she tends to be secretive about her personal life. Typically she is modestly dressed, and looks around a lot, but is on the quiet side. She isn’t shy, but is definitely more of an observer than the Social Butterfly (TJI).

The Playette protects herself for good reason. Once you get past her walls, she is sweet, soft, sexy, and exciting. She has wonderful gifts to offer, but it is these very same gifts that make her vulnerable.

Before she lets her guard down, you must walk a fine line to show her that you will not smother or pressure her, while at the same time, conveying the potential for romance and intimacy.

We start with the Playette, because she is one of the most difficult, and most common, types men encounter within the target age range of early- to-mid 20’s. The challenge with this type of woman is quickly separating yourself from her many other orbiting male friends, who are in the No Sex Zone.

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Note: We don’t use the common term, “friend zone,” because as you will see, truly being friends with a woman is actually a catalyst for sex. The Friend Zone really means the No Sex Zone, or the “I don’t want to have anything to

Thisdo withmeansyou”youZone!must get sexual fast, without putting pressure on her… but at the same time you must create the perception of potential romance. This is something bad boys do naturally, but it can be learned, and perfected, once you understand the complexities of the Playette.

TheHerPlayette’sDesires Mr. Right is fantastical, which is why she has a hard time picking one guy to stay with, or even sleep with. But remember, what a woman fantasizes about, and what she responds to in real time, flesh and blood, are two very different things.

This woman responds to a man who does not need her more than she needs him. All the men in her life are chasing her – they are one of her options. You have the most leverage with her if she perceives herself to be

So she must want you more than you want her, and youonemustof yourconveyoptionsthatyou. are dating other women. But how do you make her interested in the first place, when she has so many other “suitors”?

The answer lies in her ideal relationship. She wants a man to literally sweep her off her feet. Now, we have all heard that saying before, and it means different things to different women. But in the Playette’s case, you must play the classic archetype of the dominant, romantic ladies man who saves her from her endless string of failed dating experiments.

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She wants a man who will arouse her, seduce her, take her, tame her, and leave her wanting more.

In response she surrender into deep, naked submission. She will relax in body and mind, and allow herself to be ravished beyond her control, at your whim. This is why it is so tempting and exciting to pursue a Playette, and also why it is so challenging. The wall is hard to scale because the treasure is so enticing – men’s biggest downfall with the Playette is their own impatience and anxiety.

TheHowPlayetteShe G tsislikeWhatherShemaleWantsversion, the Player. A Player has several women on his sexual roster, and he gets something different from all of them. Likewise, a Playette has many men filling many roles. However, these roles can be simplified into two categories: Lover and Provider.

All women have two sexual mating goals. The first is to be impregnated by a man with good genes – her best genetic option. Her second goal, which manifests itself as an unconscious, primal drive – an instinct similar to a man being drawn to a woman with large breasts or wide hips – is to pairbond with a man who has high social status and access, or control over, valuable resources.

The Playette achieves these goals using different men. While an iNvestortype will satisfy these drives with one great catch, a Tester fills her survival needs with more than one man.

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In the case of the Playette, there is an emotional boundary preventing almost all men she meets from reaching her heart. She is a Denier, meaning she puts up heavy resistance to sex because it carries a lot of emotional meaning for her. As a Tester, she “keeps it moving” so to speak, so it may be hard to develop enough rapport to the point where she feels safe letting go of her precious sexual side.

In addition, she’ll often put up soft boundaries, or tests, in order to slow down the progress of a sexual relationship, so that she can maintain her power. For example, she may accuse the man of being a player to put him on the defensive. Most guys respond by becoming docile and losing their power, thus losing their power and falling into the No-Sex Zone, or “Friend Zone,” as it’s commonly called.

In a sense she has gotten what she wanted, superficially. But she has not been sexually satisfied, just egotistically placated.

As an Idealist, The Playette has it in the back of her mind that she will one day meet her Prince Charming. In a sense, she is always looking for her Prince by being passive and leaving a social vacuum for men to take the lead. The irony is, her apparent coolness makes most men uneasy and lacking confidence. She won’t tell you what to do – she just sits back and observes what kind of man you are.