- •Анисимова н.И., Вербицкая с.В., Румянцева м.Е. Steps up 5
- •Introduction 4
- •Introduction 6
- •Introduction 50
- •Introduction 72
- •Introduction 92
- •Introduction
- •Unit 1. Health
- •Introduction Fighting Fit
- •Health and Fitness
- •Time Matters
- •Heart disease and changing attitudes
- •Heart disease: treat or prevent?
- •Health and illness
- •Diagnosis and Remedies
- •A Nurse's lament
- •Alternative therapy
- •Acupuncture
- •Alternative therapy and migraine
- •Bad habits
- •Linking words and phrases
- •Stress-related hair loss
- •Smile Power
- •Stressbusters
- •Aids – not someone else's problem
- •Ethical questions in health care
- •Medicine and genetic research
- •Synonyms and Paraphrases
- •Take care in the sun
- •Plastic surgery
- •Homeopathy
- •Better health for everyone
- •1. One Earth – Two Worlds of Health
- •2. Increasing Costs and Ethical Choices: Health Care in the Industrial World
- •Vocabulary in Context
- •3. A Question of Priorities: Health Care in the Third World
- •Vocabulary in Context
- •4. Prevention – Often Better Than Cure
- •Health scares
- •Slim chance
- •The place where you work
- •At the mercy of the cure
- •Check yourself
- •Unit 2. Psychology.
- •Introduction You And Your Image
- •Behaviour in crowds
- •Practical psyhology
- •From head to toe. Body language.
- •Idiomatic Expressions
- •Mutual impressions
- •Character and personality
- •Character
- •Social Types
- •Friends
- •Character reference
- •Personal equation cards
- •Unit 3. Men vs. Women
- •Introduction
- •Recognizing Stereotypes
- •Big boys don’t cry
- •Short Views
- •Women and power: perspectives from anthropology
- •Why I want a wife
- •Exploring fatherhood
- •Attitudes and beliefs
- •A 1980s Couple
- •I must admit, I'm afraid I'm tempted to agree.
- •Definite Attitudes
- •Gender on Screen
- •Afraid of giving
- •Male and female conversational styles
- •Check yourself
- •Unit 4. Shall we believe it?
- •Introduction Your Superstitious Beliefs
- •Strange but true
- •Believe it or not
- •Mystics and prophets
- •Reading your palm
- •The ‘night’ side of life
- •Dreamland
- •Lunatics
- •The russians
- •Unit 5. Diversity of cultures
- •Culture shock
- •1. United States of America
- •2. South Africa
- •3. Thailand
- •4. Malaysia
- •5. China
- •6. Britain
- •7. France
- •What Makes An American?
- •Culture defined
- •Comparing and contrasting cultures
- •Global culture
- •Chinese space, american space
- •Japanese and american workers: two states of mind
- •Let's play fifty questions
- •The importance of manners
- •Violence sneaks into punk scene
- •These children are taught to survive
- •Unusual homes
- •Unusual occupations
- •Career expectations
- •Check yourself
- •Sources
Big boys don’t cry
Task 1. Can you think of situations that provoke extreme emotion? Do men and women react in the same way in such situations?
Task 2. You are going to hear a discussion between a man and a woman about male and female attitudes to being ill. Before you listen to the tape, read the following statements quickly. As you listen, write Y (yes) or N (no) next to 1-7 according to whether the statements accurately reflect what the woman says or not.
The woman thinks that men believe they never have mild illnesses.
She expresses sympathy for injured football players.
She believes that most men try to hide their reactions to pain.
She thinks that men do not like to take time off work through illness.
She thinks that men prefer to be looked after by their mothers when they are ill.
She believes that women, unlike men, accept that they will experience some pain in life.
She thinks that women expect their partners to look after them when they are ill.
Task 3. Now listen again and check your answers. What is your reaction to the woman's views?
Task 4. Read the article once only. What does the writer think about men crying in public? Do you agree with the writer's views? Why? Why not?
Big boys do cry ... and they're heroes
Wimbledon 1992 will be remembered as the year the champion, his coach and his girlfriend all broke down in tears, and the winner and runner-up hugged each other on court in full view of 500 million spectators all round the world.
Is Andre Agassi heralding a new type of hero, the one who openly weeps and so tugs at the world's heartstrings? How many of us watching also felt a tear come to our eyes as we witnessed his reaction?
Open displays of emotion, of course, are becoming common in world-class sport, at least among the younger players. We've seen it among football players for the past few years. But so far, it's only the men who are shedding public tears.
Women seem to be getting tougher while men are increasingly allowing their vulnerable sides to show, and not being ashamed of it, either.
According to Dr Brian Roet, author of A Safer Place To Cry, men who can openly weep are the lucky ones, the emotionally healthy people. A common newspaper expression for people who are trying to cope with strong emotions is that they are “fighting back tears”. This is taken to mean that they are being brave. But how much braver if they can let the tears flow and allow everybody else to know what they are going through.
Tears, Roet says, represent so many emotions: “They are a natural form of expression, like laughter. They can convey a multitude of feelings, such as happiness, sadness, loneliness, fear, relief, anger, or frustration, and as such provide healthy pathways to the outside world”.
“However, for some strange reason society has designated this expression of emotion to be unsuitable and the feelings are forced to remain underground.”
Many people, he says, have an overbrimming lake of tears ever ready to flow just under the surface, yet they do their best never to let them come out, at least in public.
After 15 years in general practice, Dr Roet came to realize that the inability to shed tears and show emotion was behind many of the illnesses he had been trying to treat. He now feels that providing a “safe place” to cry is far more helpful to his patients than dispensing drugs. Many have not cried for years and at first are ashamed when the tears start to flow but, he says, it's only when tears can come that emotional healing can take place.
“I hope that people will learn to respect tears. As we learn to laugh and cry naturally, without fear of guilt, we develop peace of mind and the tranquillity that provides a healthy basis for the rest of our life.”
But he admits he remains unable to shed them himself. “The only safe place for me to cry is in the cinema, where the tears well up and flood over the most trivial situations.”
“I believe now that I was told so much as a child that boys don't cry that this imprint has sealed my tear ducts, except out of sight in the darkness of the make-believe cinema world.”
Sporting stars who break down in public remind us that there is nothing wimpy, nothing weak or loser-like about the ability to shed tears. Men who can cry easily are the real winners in life, those who are at the same time confident and sensitive.
Agassi's tennis is wondrous, but it's his ability to cry and remind us that he is fully human rather than just a tennis robot that will turn him into a world-class heart-throb.
Women always warm to a man who can cry. And perhaps the new breed of weeping sports stars will give other men “permission” to cry, so that tears can become as natural a form of expression as smiling and laughter.
Task 5. In the article, the writer uses the following words and phrases:
a. ... when the tears start to flow...
b. ... tears well up and flood ...
What do they mean?
The verbs in italics are usually associated with water. These verbs normally have a literal sense; however, it is also possible for them to have a metaphorical or figurative sense. Look at the following examples of flowing below and decide whether the meaning is literal or metaphorical.
“…source of discontent,” he says. “Once the oil starts flowing, the companies demand that the sub-contractors ...”
...month which is extremely fast. Once the ideas start flowing, you don't want to block it by taking too much time...
...his contemplations of the turquoise flowing Nile were abruptly sullied by the tinny sounds of...
...while the European champion, confidence flowing, sprinted to 13 min 17.82 sec, a time he has never...
While the Honda's bodywork is smooth and flowing, the Kawasaki's is angular and punchy.
Above him, a full moon rode flowing black clouds in a charcoal sky, illuminating the...
The camera shows tourists flowing back and forth in front of the White House.
He divided her hair into three parts, three golden rivers flowing down from the hills to the plain.
Task 6. In the text, the writer refers to an overbrimming lake of tears. This is a good example of a metaphor, where the image of a lake is used to emphasize the extent to which a person may cry.
Here are some more metaphors using similar images. What type of situations could they be used to describe?
a sea of happy faces
a sea of campaign banners
rivers of fire
waves of rebellious children
pools of empty silence
Notice the common pattern of noun +of+ noun. Look up the following words in your dictionaries and note down similar phrases using this pattern.
For example, a stream of verbal abuse.
a stream of
torrents of
floods of
You may be able to use metaphors like these when you are talking about a scene in a picture or when you are writing descriptions.
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