Vin DiCarlo - Pandoras Box (Complete PUA System)

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Threesomes

The MW probably sees a threesome as a standard rite of passage before marriage, so there will be a natural inclination. The standard route for setting up a threesome is to find a third party target your MW thinks is hot, who thinks your MW is hot also. This can be done over the course of a night, in less than 15 minutes once you get the hang of it. It’s even easier in a strip club.

The key is to convey that you are most interested in your girl, because she is an N and an R. Add to this the attitude that it’s no big deal (Justifier). Use kissing, or the girls showing off their best body parts (compare tits, asses, or my favorite – find three “spots” on each girl) to get the group interacting on a physical level.

Kink

The MW loves to be dominated but also likes being in control, on occasion. Use protective touch initially, as she doesn’t respond to direct sexuality at first. Once she feels safe giving you control of her body, manhandle her. Grab her hair, squeeze her hips and butt, and hold her by the wrists. Bite her just enough to hurt, and then ease up.

Gradually take over, to the point where she automatically falls and submits when you push against her. At this point, begin telling her what to wear for you before you visit her, and try different role-plays to keep things exciting.

Worship

If you respect yourself and enjoy yourself fully with this woman, she will see you as a sexual powerhouse. This is another type that needs no shaping. She loves men and likes to see you wield your manhood with pride. She wants you to be The Man!

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Introduction

You’re the VIP

The key to exacting devotion in a woman is to always maintain the dynamic that you are the most important person in the relationship. If she’s chasing you, she can’t chase other men, so leave no room for her to think of them. This is easy – don’t think about her more than she thinks about you.

Create the dynamic where she is busy thinking about you a lot. This means you CAN’T make her the most important person in your relationship, because then she will think she’s “done” seducing you, and can move to another challenge (and women LOVE challenges). Instead, keep her mind occupied with winning you over.

This means never being “won over” until you are ready to settle down and start a family. Even then, she must earn you attention and affection.

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Vision

Think about why we elect officials to government office: we believe they will lead our community in the right direction. You do the same in a relationship with a woman – you are the leader. This is the foundation of dominance. You must have goals, hobbies, values, and rules you live by. Be clear on who you are.

Each type is looking for different things, but don’t change – if you are self-directed, you can fulfill every woman’s basic need for leadership, or dominance. But be conscious of which aspects of your personality you emphasize. This is basically conversational topic choice – calibrate by relating to her the values you both share. Each type has her own preference for how a man expresses his vision.

Investment

Leverage a woman’s inclination to contribute, through supporting you. Ask for her help with everything you can think of, including massages, back scratches, bringing you sentimental gifts from her vacation, and introducing you to her friends. All these examples keep her mind, and thus emotions, occupied with you. Get her to tell you her biggest fears and past embarrassments. Have her cook for you.

The more she invests, emotionally and physically, the more she is bound to you. The more she is bound to you, the more she’ll do for you. The more she does for you, the more invested, thus bound she is to you, and so on. Also, the busier she is contributing to you, the less time and energy she has for other men. Each type has a unique identity, which determines how she wants to contribute. When you understand how she wants to contribute – what she values in herself – you can leverage this to exact a high degree of investment.

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Potential

Never be sold. As soon as YOU are devoted, she won’t be. The cultural myth is that when a man devotes himself to a woman, she will be nice and reciprocate. The true nature of humanity is that when you devote yourself to someone, they are then free to gain someone else’s devotion – as if you are checked off a psychological list. Devotion is perpetual service, mental and physical.

The key to applying the principle of perpetual potential is to find the balance between bonding without succumbing to a woman’s attempts to lock you down into monogamy before you are ready. And even when you decide to be with one woman exclusively, you must still keep the dynamic of potentiality.

Always convey that although you like her and are happy with her, she must still contribute and keep you excited. This is really easy when you are able to meet women at will – in the back of your mind, and hers, is the possibility that you can meet someone else if you are no longer satisfied. The same is true in reverse, but like I said, you must not concern yourself with her leaving you, because you are the most important person in the relationship.

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The Playette (TDI)

Vision

The Playette is intrigued by creative, mysterious men. She herself is quite mysterious, due to her reserved demeanor. She keeps her thoughts and emotions closely protected. When she meets a man who has depth but doesn’t wear it on his sleeve, she becomes the chaser. This is the key to flipping the script with the Playette – beat her at her own game.

Convey that you have a lot of unique interests and knowledge, a little bit at a time. Talk passionately about your interests. The more personal and substantial each interest, the less you talk about it. For example, let’s say you like to collect old D.C. comics. Show her your collection, and joke about what a dork you. But let’s also say that you plan on starting your own comic, and you are currently sketching it out and working on the story line. Mention this subtly, and make her ask to see your work. Show her reluctantly, saying little, but with your eyes, convey how important this project is to you.

Investment

Get a lot of investment from the Playette right off the bat. It’s easy when you know what she wants to give. The Playette is an idealist, so rather than contributing in practical, physical ways, she prefers to contribute to the world

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of ideas with her energy and attitude. Tell her she inspires you, or relaxes you, or cheers you up when she’s around. Tell her you want her to come over and hang out.

Use her as a muse, or a source of therapy – have her massage you or pick out some dvd’s to watch together. Tell her you want to watch something funny that will cheer you up after a long day. These are easy ways to get the Playette in the habit of investing in you. Obviously her most substantial investment is sex, and this is the easiest way to make her comfortable sleeping with you because it makes her feel like the chaser, instead of the chased.

Potential

The Playette will assume that when she sleeps with you, she is officially your girlfriend. This is no bueno if you expect to have any sort of leverage. If you go along with this expectation, you are letting her set the terms. A woman’s terms are not your terms, because you are not a woman. Remember that – stay true to yourself no matter what kind of nasty things women call you (“player, cheater, dog, asshole etc”).

The easy way to avoid this is by playing the Playette’s game better than she does. She is a Playette because she perceives herself to have been a romantic victim in her past – she dates multiple guys, stringing them along without getting too attached, sexually or emotionally. She does this to protect herself. So if you convey that you are not ready to get serious because you have been hurt, she will understand. Not only will she understand, she will then become the one trying to “save” you, and overcome your walls. This flips the script and keeps her in the chasing position.

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The Social Butterfly (TJI)

Vision

The SB values sociability above all else. Are you seeing a pattern here? The key to being the VIP is to take on the woman’s role and be better at what she values than she is! In the case of the SB, it may be difficult to be more social and connected than she is. However, if you can at least convey that you are socially competent, and you can charm people effortlessly, you will garner her respect. The SB is the girl who likes to talk about all the promoters, DJ’s, bouncers, and owners that she knows. Don’t be intimidated when she does this, and don’t try to compete.

Ultimately, none of these people really care that much about her – they just pretend to be her friend because she is pretty, and in the nightlife game, pretty girls are currency. She intuitively knows this, so when she brags about her connections, she’ll actually respect you less if you sound impressed. Instead, talk about genuine, interesting interactions you have had recently. Talk about your relationships with your friends. This is her weak point – genuine close relationships. Yet she knows that these relationships are more valuable than a bunch of social acquaintances that can get her into a club or whatever.

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Investment

We’ll leverage the SB’s ideal self-image to get her in the habit of doing stuff for you. Have her use her social connections to get you into clubs, invited to parties, and obtain social and professional contacts. Appreciate her sociability and mention how easy it is for her to meet people. Tell her you admire how charming she is – how everyone seems to naturally like her and gravitate towards her. A few minutes later, mention how you are looking to do more DJ gigs since you’ve been working on your skills. She’ll probably jump at the chance to hook you up with some bar owner she knows.

Sex isn’t much of an investment for her. You can still use sex to create the VIP dynamic by timing when you show your sexual interest. Make your move after she had done something for you. This gives meaning to sex, and will gradually become something she values hightly. It’s simple classical conditioning.

Potential

It’s not likely that she will be overly concerned with the long-term direction of your relationship, at first. But as you build up her level of investment, and demonstrate your character to embody that which she values and admires, you will become very important to her. When she seems to finally begin to take your relationship seriously, don’t jump the gun.

She likely has a ton of guys orbiting her, trying to be her boyfriend. Don’t lump yourself in with the rest of them. Be the exception – the guy she is

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chasing. Don’t worry about losing her – the SB loves to chase. It turns her on. Keep her in perpetual limbo in terms of how much you like her. Always reward after she does something, and keep demonstrating your ability to make real connections. This will keep her in the chasing role, which turns her on, and motivates her to chase even more.