3. Negative emotions: anger, hatred, fear.

Whether we want that or not, negative emotions is inevitable; part of our life. Human beings are such creatures who simply can't always be satisfied, calm and happy; there's something bothering us all the time, we live in order to achieve one goal after another, we can't help suffering when we don't get something or when anything goes just a bit wrong - at least most of us do behave in such a way, and this is where all the psychological problems and negative emotions come from.

That's how the lives of most of us pass: we're being grown up under the constant pressure of becoming the most successful, the richest, the smartest and of fyfilling all the expectations of those people around us. As if studying at the best university or working for the best successful company or being better than, say, your neighbor really matters and means that you'll be the happiest and the best рerson in the world. That's not the real state of things but nearly no one realizes it. And in the eternal for all those not really important things we don't really get what we think we want but instead acquire the great amount of different negative feelings and emotions: we are angry if something goes wrong or some one gets more than we do, we hate such situations and people, we are afraid of failure or being worse or of not fulfilling somebody's expectations. Of course, all those emotions affect our mental health and consequently our physical health because those two are not completely separate unlinked things. So when we are full of anger, hatred, any other negative emotions we are always in bad mood, everything irriate us and we start feeling worse and sick, and from my point of view the more you're annoyed and angry with everybody and everything the more and more often you are sick. Of course, it's not easy at all to cope with your negative emotions but it is possible - in case you really want to do that and be able to control yourself. And the first thing to do is to calm down. You're not perfect and no one is; if you think carefully you'll realize that you don't really need all those things you think you're obliged to have; you are not living to fulfill somebody's expectations, for example, your parents' - so you shouldn't be worried all the time of not achieving a goal some one else set for you - you live for yourself and to be happy with who you are and not for having a better car than your neighbor owns or for sending your children to the better university. That was about the reasons of the "illness" but we also should pay attention to the "symptoms" of it whish are anger and hafred themselves. My advice here would be to think and to breathe: every time you get irritated or want to shout at somebody or feel exfremely negative try to relax and breath deeply, preferably closing your eyes, and think whether you are really so much annoyed and can't help being mad at all. You'll realize that in most cases it's not really so, and you're pretty able to cope with your negative emotions. Such behavior needs a lot of practice and self-confrol work though.

And at last let's turn to the different phobias one can possess. Many authors and researches claim that the main reason of our fears is the fear of death. May be it is really so but at the moment I can't really agree with them. As for me, I can't say that really have a phobia but I'm extremely afraid of height and of tight closed spaces - and it's not because I'm afraid to die from those things, I'm simply afraid of them as they are, and it doesn't matter what result they may cause. I think many of us have their own fears and even phobias and it must be much more difficult to cope with them than with such emotions as fear from my point of view.