14. Love and marriage. Family matters.

Marriage

For some people love is a complete devotion. Love is smth that everyone needs in order to survive in this world. For me love is how I feel about that special someone.I think it is important to have some life experience, personal growth before marriage. The most important in marriage is love, commitment, trust, to have the same values. Building a happy marriage is the result of mutual efforts.

Marriage is one of the basic institutions of society. Marriage is a lifelong commitment between 2 people.Thraditionaly marriage has been an economic arrangement in which husband work to provide financial security for the family,wives cared for the children. Today both parents work.

People marry for different reasons:economic security, preassure from parents and friends, lonliness, desire for a family.

Some people choose to remain single. These are people who value freedom and independence. For women greater career opportunities have brought more economic independence. But singlehood has its disadvantages: single people have difficulties in emotional needs, in parenthood. Cohabitation, an arrangement in which 2 people live together without marrying, has become more common in our society.Some young people who are aware of complexities of marriage prefer to live together first. Some people are against cohabitation because of maral or religion.

small, two-generational family is dominant. the most popular model is family with 1 or 2 children, which is proof that familes are smaller than in the past, democtratic family relation. Economical independence made wife’s social position equal with her husband. Relation between wife and husband became more equal and authority in family is divided between them.

Parents wants to give it more than they used to get in their childhood (mainly good education and work experience).

So, speaking about weddings, I would like to mention first that I don’t understand people, who are getting married at the age of 17-20, it’s hideous. Because they don’t realize that they’ll break their lives by divesting themselves of the greatest years. Cause at that age they all are still children and children can only play representing a family but it’s wrong to transform such a game into a reality, because they are too young to do it. The same I can tell about weddings the reasons of which is pregnancy, such wedlocks exist for a short time as usual.

As for me I decided that it would be better to get married when I’ll be 25-27 years old. I think that nowadays marriage is only the way to bring up lawful children. And it would be better and admissible for me to live in civil marriage with a beloved person. And only when we’ll be sure in each other, in our joint future and our financial stability it would be possible to speak about our marriage and children.

I’m an atheist, so I want to have a humanist wedding and after it a ceremony in a register office. As any other girls I want my wedding to be as unusual as possible, I want us to recite our own vows, and to invite a crowd of friends and relatives.

Getting older you look for real, true love. You simply fall in love and want to make the other person happy too. And so you marry and take on the responsibilities of married life. In this new life you learn to take care of your partner, and you expect to have a family and bring up your children in the way you know to be right. As parents, you wish to provide them with everything you know a child needs: love, protection, safety and understanding. By rearing children and being a good partner you yourself feel needed and loved. The self-realization in marriage and parenthood is the key to happiness, although it is still associated with effort, sacrifice and hard work. If the decision to get married does not result from an unpleasant domestic situation you have a great chance to succeed in marriage.