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4. What inferences can one making about problem resolution in married life? Discuss it with your partner and then with the group.

5. Find in the texts collocations and phrases that mean the following.

Someone’s old girlfriend/boyfriend. (2 words), a card game mentioned in the passages, a situation in which two people spend time together or live together, and have romantic or sexual feelings for each other, the man whom a woman is going to marry, something that is so wrong or bad that you think it should not be allowed, to find a satisfactory way of dealing with a problem or difficulty…(2 phrases), to be deceiving somebody, not feeling at all confident about yourself, your abilities, or your relationships with people, the opinion that you have about yourself, to make somebody feel better about themselves, wanted by a lot of people but rare or difficult to get, finally, a bad mistake, to give someone your love or support in a serious and permanent way, a problem that hasn’t been dealt with, to look after smb. charm, attractiveness; finding oneself in low spirits, to make someone feel extremely tired, when people like each other and find each other attractive, a promise to do something or to behave in a particular way.

6. Family life may breed a host of other problems. Below is a letter addressed to an agony aunt. Read it through and suggest your solution to the problem raised.

Dear Samantha…

You’ve got to help me. I’m in a dreadful dilemma. I’m mad about my wife, and we’ve got two adorable children. But I can’t stand my wife’s parents. And now that her father has retired because of illness, my wife, who is an only child, feels she must ask them to come to live with us because they can’t afford to pay their rent. I hate my mother-in-law because she’s always interfering in the way we run the house and bring up the children. Also, she is a racist, and I think she secretly despises me for being black. As for my father- in-law, I really detest him because he used to punish my wife severely when she was a child. I loathe violence, and I am afraid of what he might do to our children.

I’ve talked to my wife about this, but she can see no alternative. What should we do?

Listening comprehension

1. Listen to a dialogue and say what the cause of their disagreement is.

2. Look at the situation from the point of view of the girl / boy. How would you justify it?

Reading comprehension

1. Cheating on the spouse seems to be one of the main causes of family disintegration. The text below highlights this problem.

Read it and share your opinion on the problem addressed.

Adultery: the Intimate Fraud

Adultery is in the news again due to the murder-by-Mercedes trial of Clara Harris, who allegedly ran over her adulterous husband three times after discovering him with another woman.

What is adultery? How many of us ‘cheat’, why is it wrong, and what should be done about it”

WorldNetDaily’s staunchly Christian Josef Farah writes of Harris: “Free her and let her be an example to every cheating husband and wife in America. There is a price to pay. Sometimes it’s the ultimate price.”

For most people, the death penalty for adultery sounds too much like Arabic laws that call for stoning sinful women.

If only because of its impact on families, the issue of adultery is too important to obscure with gut reactions.

What is wrong about adultery?

Typically, marriage is based on an explicit understanding of monogamy: This means that the deceived spouse is lied to and betrayed. Such an affair is not merely immoral, it is an act of fraud and a breach of contract. The defrauded spouse acts in the belief that the marriage contract is being honored. He or she makes life-defining decisions and incurs obligations based on the contract: having children, buying a home, taking a particular job, sharing income, making mutual investments. The adulterous spouse reaps the benefits of the marriage contract while violating its terms.

What should be done about adultery?

Legally speaking, it should not be merely grounds for divorce, as it often is now, but also a determining factor in the divorce settlement. Anyone who breaches a contract should pay a penalty.

If you do commit adultery, then have the courage to be honest about it. Take responsibility and don’t hide behind excuses like “it just happened.” Ending up in a motel room with someone isn’t an act cloaked in mystery. Nor does lying about adultery “just happen”. These are conscious choices that result from a string of other decisions leading up to the affair, such as flirting, exchanging phone calls and having clandestine meetings. If you don’t want sex to “just happen”, then don’t lay the necessary groundwork.

If a friend is having an affair, try to reason him or her into either breaking it off or coming clean at home. At the very least, express disapproval. If you find out that a friend of yours is the betrayed party, then tell him or her about the affair, but only after giving the cheating spouse a fair chance to do so first. Don’t give your moral sanction and cooperation to an act of fraud by keeping quiet. You wouldn’t silently watch as a friend stole money or was stolen from. Don’t tolerate the equally vicious dishonesty or adultery.

One of the reasons our society winks at adultery is because we romanticize it as forbidden fruit. Novels such as The Bridges of Madison County throw an idealistic glow around infidelity. But there is nothing romantic about lying, sneaking and betraying trust. There is nothing ideal about destroying families with children.

We should stop winking and look adultery straight in the eye. In doing so, it will be revealed as an ugly phenomenon and good marriages need not fear. Marriages are not determined by statistics or the surveys found in women’s glossy magazines, all of which seem to be entitled “How to Know If he’s Wandering”. Shut the magazine. You and your spouse are in control, not Cosmopolitan.

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