- •Chapter 4 competencies necessary to be successful in managing people
- •Communicating in Negotiation
- •The Communication Process
- •Rules for Effective Listening in Negotiation
- •If you do not understand, say so.Show interest. Lean forward, nod, or smile.
- •Rules for Effective Speaking in Negotiation
- •Filtering
- •Examples of Filtering Skill Building
- •When Conflict Arises in Negotiation
- •Watching
- •Body Language
- •Performance Checklist
- •Key Terms, Phrases, and Concepts
Examples of Filtering Skill Building
Choose the examples that apply to your personality characteristics, and practice.
I am an introvert. I get angry when someone states the obvious or repeats what has already been said. I need to be patient when negotiating with people who do this, because they are not intending to annoy me. They are different from me.
I am an intuitive. I am impatient with details and I cannot stand it when someone cannot see the big picture. I need to be patient when negotiating with a sensor, because details are important to him or her. In order to get through to a sensor, I must present details.
I am a sensor. I can anger people when I interrupt to insert or correct facts. When negotiating with an intuitive, I must remember that we have to discuss more than details. We must discuss goals and broad issues.
I am an intuitive. When dealing with a sensor, I must be aware that he or she wants specific questions and specific answers.
I am a sensor. When dealing with an intuitive, I must be aware that he or she looks for the meaning of things. I must appreciate the intuitive's need to think of concepts and to be relational.
I am a sensor. I must replace the word "you" with "I". Rather than saying "Your numbers are wrong," I must say, "I looked at it differently".
I am a judger. I know when I am right. I think about things before I make up my mind. I have no tolerance for disagreement or alternatives. If something is worth doing, it is worth doing right. I need to recognize that my way is not the only way. When negotiating with perceivers, I must allow them to have their own views. I must realize that they speak of their ideas and perceptions. Not everything they say represents their judgment or final view.
I am a perceiver. I can see all sides to an issue. When I, voice alternatives with a judger, I create anger. I must make it known that I am contemplating out loud, and I must increase the importance of resolving issues expeditiously when I negotiate with a judger.
I am a judger. When dealing with a perceiver, I must make an effort to collect and consider new and additional information that may affect my ultimate decision.
I am a perceiver. I must make a conscious effort to come to closure on issues.
When Conflict Arises in Negotiation
Privately consider whether the dispute is due in whole or in part to temperament and personality differences or is a conflict on a substantive matter or issue.
If the problem is only one of personality/communication differences, relate to the other person on his or her terms and in his or her language.
If conflict persists despite the filtering attempts, determine and agree on what is in dispute.
Then proceed with negotiation on that issue (or proceed with understanding that there was not a real dispute). К conflict escalates at any time, call time out.
Remember that the minimal features of conflict include values, meanings, attributions, communication and, most importantly, interdependence. Also remember that interpersonal skills will make you look like a genius, and genius is often perseverance in disguise!