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(3) ____________________________________________________________. They tell themselves ―I can,‖ rather than ―I can‘t.‖ They see the glass as ―half full,‖ rather than ―half empty.‖

Strong families change their focus from what they have not done to what they can do. From what they do not have, to what they do have.

(4)___________________________________________. Strong families are optimistic about the present and future and aspire to:

look at the sunny side of everything, and make their optimism come true;

think only the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best;

give so much to the improvement of self that there is no time to criticize others;

be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy for the presence of trouble.

2. Put an "S" for strength beside the qualities you feel your family has achieved and a "G" beside those qualities which are an area of potential growth. If the characteristic does not apply to your family or is not an important characteristic, put an "NA" for not applicable.

This will help you to identify those areas you would like to work on together to improve.

S G NA

We are able to ignore petty irritants and minor stresses.

We don‘t give lots of attention or energy to worry.

We believe that daily struggles are just part of reaching a bigger goal.

We use humour to relieve stress and tension.

We take life one day at a time.

We eliminate some involvements when our schedules get too full.

We give attention to the most important things first.

We engage in recreational activities and hobbies.

We enjoy outdoor relaxation and recreation.

We participate in exercise regularly.

We manage to see some good in bad situations.

We see opportunities for personal and family growth in crisis situations.

We use good communication to share feelings and to solve problems.

We are flexible and adaptable.

3. Give an overall rating (S or G)

Grammar Practice

1. In Grammar Focus section study the theory about different parts of the speech. In the texts above point out nouns, adjectives, verbs describing family relationships and fill in the table. Compare your results.

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6)My father was old-fashioned. He was a good man.

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7)My mother definitely used to spoil us. She was very kind-hearted.

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8)I was always fighting at school. My parents didn‘t seem to mind.

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9)I will bring my children up in the same way. I was brought up by my Granny.

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10)My step mother didn‘t buy me anything. I packed a suitcase and left the home.

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3. Write a composition on the following plan.

Introduction

Paragraph 1 Is your family special?

Main Body

Paragraph 2 What do you appreciate most about each family member?

In what way do you express your love and caring?

Conclusion

Paragraph 3

Why is your family special?

Practice

All about us

1. Put together a list of ways your group can show appreciation to each other. Decide which ones you carry out.

Our group show support for each other in these ways:

1.________________________________________________________________

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2.________________________________________________________________

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3. ________________________________________________________________

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4._________________________________________________________________

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Read and decide

What do you think basic human values are ?

Do basic values differ in different cultures?Give examples.

What is valuable to you?

FAMILY VALUES

Values are a reflection of who we are, of our culture and of our own unique heritage. Being clear about our values enables and empowers us to establish priorities and make decisions that we can live with and by. What we learn from our families in childhood builds character and serves us throughout our lives. Families guide personal growth and education, while offering love and protection.

Many of our family ideals, beliefs, behaviours or ―values‖ are merely habits of thinking or behaving.

Values are critical in building character and increasing an overall sense of well-being. The foundation of character building begins during infancy and slowly evolves through childhood and adolescence. People do not suddenly become honest and responsible. The development of these values is a long process that entails many interactions between children and adults.

Positive values within families:

Promote honesty, integrity, commitment and loyalty

Encourage respect for self and others and tolerance of differences

Require being responsible and accountable for your actions

Teach fairness and treating people equally

Foster being a good citizen who appreciates doing things which make life better for self and other people.

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1. The point is for you to determine what you actually value. Here is the list of values important to you.

2. Rank the list of values

3. What do you value most? Explain your top five.

YOUR TOP EIGHT VALUES:

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Project work .

1. Make up a summary of your family values.

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2. You have surveyed your family. Now read each statement in family strengths assessment and circle the choice how you feel about it. It’s time to come to the conclusion how strong your family is.

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19. I‘m proud of my family.

20.I feel understood by other members of the family.

21.Family members treat each other with respect.

22. Elders are respected in our family.

23.Family members ―pull together‖ when necessary.

24.We have cultural traditions that we practice.

25.Our family tries to look on the bright side no matter what happens.

26.We believe there are more advantages than disadvantages to the way we live.

27. Our roles in the family are shared.

28.We believe that our lifestyle has made us better people and a stronger family.

29.We try to prevent problems before they happen.

30.We can talk about things without arguing.

31. We enjoy learning in our family.

32. We listen to each other.

33. In our family we share memories together.

3. Present the results of SWOT analysis in the group. Exchange opinions.

Writing

1.Write a composition on the topic “Each strong family is strong in its own way”.

2.Answer the questions below and write your family mission statement.

What is most important to you about your family? What are your collective goals?

When do you feel most connected to one another? How would you like to relate to one another?

Describe your family‘s strengths.

What do you value? (For example, relationships, faith, independence, wealth, hard work, generosity)

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