INDEX
A
adaptability, overcoming failure, 63–64
adulthood, 16–17 adventures, 233–234 age, 74–75
alliances, building strategic, 246 alternative work arrangements,
209–213
job-sharing, 211–213 part-time, 210 telecommuting, 209–210
ambition, 29
anxiety during layoffs, 134–135 attitude
layoffs, surviving, 141–142 relationships with manage-
ment, 245
B
balance
alternative work arrangements, 209–213
changing locations, 207–209 early retirement, 201–203 listening to yourself, 213–214 scheduling flexibility, 215–216 simplifying life, 205–207 starting a new life, 203–205 taking a break, 199–201 work/life, 197–220
beliefs and principles, standing up for, 187–188
boredom, overcoming, 34, 113 bosses. See management
business ethics, 173–174. See also ethics
C
careers
changing, 14–15, 32 choice, 3–5
failure, cause of, 51–62 generation gap in career
choice, 5–13 growth, 13–14
interest inventory, 18–21 lateral moves, 246–247 midlife transitions, 69–71 personal career interest
survey, 18 security, 95–112 success, 25–45
changing careers, 14–15, 32 clock-watching, 114–115 communication skills, 244 communities, creating, 258 compliments, taking, 115–116 conflicts
relationships with management, 244
viewing positively, 120–121 work/life balance. See balance
creativity
desires, balancing, 35 layoffs, surviving, 144–146
criticism
relationships with management, 244
taking, 118–119 cultural adulthood, 16
D
decisions
accepting failure, 10–13 career failure, 52–53
289
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defending rights, 186–187 |
rationalizing unethical |
departure, timing, 160–161 |
behavior, 183 |
developing marketable skills, 97–99 |
role models, 185 |
diligence, as key to success, 28–30 |
standing up for beliefs and |
downsizing, 133. See also layoffs |
principles, 187–188 |
dreams |
expectations |
following, 30–32 |
managing other peoples’, |
“hand-me-down,” 8–10 |
137–139 |
E |
relationships with manage- |
ment, 244 |
|
early retirement |
F |
saving for, 87 |
|
work/life balance, 201–203 |
failure, 47–68 |
emotional adulthood, 16 |
accepting, 10–13 |
emotional process of quitting a job, |
causes of, 51–62 |
162 |
celebrating, 49–51 |
emotional well-being, 135–137 |
learning lessons from, 49–51, |
emotions, controlling, 38–39 |
62–63 |
employers, 56 |
turning around, 62–65 |
employment. See also jobs |
feedback, 244 |
alternative work arrangements, |
feminism, 4 |
209 |
friends, missing after quitting a job, |
career failure, 52–53 |
162–163 |
ethics. See ethics |
full potential, developing, 36 |
job descriptions, 99 |
fun |
layoffs, surviving, 137–139 |
activities you love, 231–233 |
separating work from home, |
adventures, 233–234 |
127 |
everyday, 224–227 |
entrepreneurialism, 251–261 |
laughter, as the best medicine, |
aptitude for, 255–258 |
222 |
attitude, 258–259 |
sense of humor, 236–237 |
creating a community, 258 |
as a tool for success, 227–231 |
preparing for, 254–255 |
G |
ethics, 173–174 |
|
banding together with others, |
generation gaps |
182–183 |
midlife career transitions, |
benefits of, 178–180 |
81–82 |
co-workers, 180–182 |
parental career choices, 5–13 |
defending rights, 186–187 |
goals, 6–8, 138 |
inner strength, trusting, |
gossip, 244 |
188–192 |
Great Depression, 5 |
lack of, 176–178 |
group functions, involvement in, |
maintaining integrity, 175–176 |
121–123 |
290
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H
“hand-me-down” dreams, 8–10 happiness, taking responsibility for,
125–127
having fun at work, 221. See also fun
health, 77–79
home life, separating work from, 127
honesty, 154–159 honoring talents, 34–36 humor, 227–231, 236–237
I
income
and happiness, 17–18 as motivation, 27
need for vs. creativity, 35 quitting your job, 157–158 saving for early retirement, 87
inexperience, career failure, 57–58 inner strength, trusting, 188–192 innovation
layoffs, surviving, 140
security in turbulent times, 101 integrity, maintaining, 175–176 intelligences, personal, 36
interests
career discovery, 6–8 personal career interest
survey, 18
involvement in group functions, 121–123
J–K
job hunting, 103–105, 161 job-sharing, 211–213
jobs
alternative work arrangements, 209
job descriptions, 99 loss over age 50, 81–82
loving, 113–131
overcoming boredom, 34, 113 performance, 52–53
quitting, 153–154. See also quitting a job
separating work from home, 127
skills. See skills
work/life balance. See balance
L
lack of ethics, 176–178 lateral moves, 246–247 laughter, as the best medicine,
222–223 layoffs
anxiety, 134–135 attitude, 141–142 creativity, 144–146
emotional well-being, 135–137 extra work caused by, 137–139 innovation, 140
learning opportunity, 142–144 surviving, 133–134
walking away, 146–148 leadership, 144–146. See also
management limitations
accepting, 139
hours to work in a day, 138 removing the “age” factor,
84–87
listening skills, 213–214 loving your job, 113–131
accepting compliments, 115–116
accepting criticism, 118–119 clock-watching, 114–115 escape plans, 128 overcoming politics, 119 patting yourself on the back,
116–118
positive attitude, 125
291
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relationships, 123–124 responsibility, 125–127 work/life balance, 127
M
management
bad bosses, 54–56
and career failure, 53–56 ethics. See ethics expectations, 137–139 leadership skills, 144–146 relationships with, 243–247 risk, 101–103 self-management, 36–39
mentors
relationships, 247–251 starting businesses, 253
midlife transitions
age 50 and over, 72–73, 81–82 emotional age, 74–75
health, 77–79
managing late career changes, 80–83
realizing potential, 83–87 remaining productive, 79–80 using imagination, 75–76 waiting for a pension, 71–72
missions
and career change, 32 defining, 30–34
money
and happiness, 17–18 as motivation, 27
need for vs. creativity, 35 quitting your job, 157–158 saving for early retirement, 87
moral authority, 176–178. See also ethics
motivation, 26–28
N–P
networking, 105–108
parents, role in career choice, 8–13 part-time employment, 210 passion, discovering, 33–34 pension, waiting for, 71–72 perfectionism, avoiding, 138 performance
career failure, 52–53 maintaining excellent records,
96–97 perseverance, 28–30
personal career interest survey, 18–21
personal intelligences, 36
personal life, separating work from, 127
personal responsibility, taking, 125–127
politics
as a cause of career failure, 51–52
viewing as a challenge, 119–123
positive attitudes, maintaining, 125 positive reinforcement, 245 prejudice, 59–60
preparation, starting businesses, 254 preparing for the unexpected,
99–101
priorities, relationships with management, 244
Q
quitting a job, 153–154
being honest with yourself, 154–159
emotional process of, 162–163 leaving gracefully, 164–165 saying goodbye, 163
timing of, 160–161
292
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R
rationalizing unethical behavior, 183–184
references, cultivating good, 160–161
relationships
building positive, 123–124 with management, 243–247 mentors, 247–251
responsibility accepting, 16–17 personal, 125–127
retirement
saving for early retirement, 87 waiting for a pension, 71–72
rights, 186–187
risks, 39–40, 101–103 role models, 185
Rolodex, maintaining, 105–108 routines, missing after quitting a job,
162–163
S
satisfaction, career, 8–10 scheduling
flexibility, 215–216
work/life balance. See balance security, career
developing marketable skills,
97–99
doing good work, 96–97 innovation, 101
job descriptions, 99
job hunting skills, 103–105 managing risk, 101–103 networking, 105–108 performance records, 96–97 preparing for the unexpected,
99–101
willingness to pitch in, 99 self definition, 5–6 self-confidence, after career failure,
56–57
self-discovery, 5–6, 8–10 self-employment, 251–261
aptitude for, 255–258 attitude, 258–259 creating a community, 258 preparing for, 254–255
self-esteem, 116–118 self-management, 36–39 selling issues, relationships with
management, 245
separating work from home, 127 September 11, 32
setbacks, overcoming, 63–64 simplifying life, 205–207 skills
developing marketable, 97–99 entrepreneurial, 253–258 humor, 228. See also fun
job hunting, 103–105 leadership, 144–146 listening, 213–214 relationships with manage-
ment, 245 success. See success
soliciting feedback, 244 Spock, Dr. Benjamin, 63–64
starting a new life, work/life balance, 203–205
starting businesses, 251–261 aptitude for, 255–258 attitude, 258–259 creating a community, 258 preparing for, 254–255
steps for leaving a job gracefully, 164–165
strategic alliances, building, 246 success
ambition, 29 celebrating, 30
defining a mission, 30–34 effect of emotional
adulthood, 16
fun as a tool for, 227–231 hard work, 28–30
293
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honoring talents, 34–36 motivation, 26–28 secrets of, 25–45 self-management, 36–39 taking risks, 39–40
support systems, poor, 60–62
T–V
taking a break from work, 199–201 talents, honoring, 34–36 teamwork, 37–38
involvement in group functions, 121–123
relationships with management, 244
telecommuting, 209–210 temporary employment, 137–139 timing, as a cause of career failure,
58–59
trust, relationships with management, 244
unethical behavior, rationalizing, 183–184. See also ethics
W–Z
warning signs of job in jeopardy, 107
women, career choices, 4 working with others. See relation-
ships
work/life balance, 197–199. See also balance
work role, choice of, 5–6 worksheets
Accomplishment Profile, 268–269
Achieving Career Security in Turbulent Times, 109–112
Action Alert, 267, 285
Business Ethics, 193–195
Development Planning, 282–283
Do You Know the Secrets of
Career Success?, 41–45
Facing Your Fears, 275–276 Fail(ure) Is Not a Four-Letter
Word, 66–68 Family Ties, 271–272
Harnessing Your Brilliance, 286–288
Having Fun at Work, 238–241 How to Love the Job You
Hate, 128–131
Job Satisfaction Profile, 270 Judgment Day, 277–279 Layoff Survivors’ Dilemma,
148–151
Life Satisfaction Indicator, 264 Oh No, 50!: Midlife Career
Transitions, 88–92
The Phantom of the Family, 273
Quitting Your Job, 166–169 A Second Opinion, 280–281 A Second Reading, 266 Taking Your Career
Satisfaction Temperature, 265–266
We, Inc.: Working with Others or Starting Your Own Business, 259–261
What Do You Want to Be… Now That You’re Grown Up?, 21–23
The Wizard Within, 274 Work/Life Balance, 217–220 Your Spiritual Deficits, 284
wrong job, as a cause of career failure, 52–53
294