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ACTUAL PROBLEMS OF MODERN RUSSIAN FAMILIES

I. G. Doroshina Penza State Technological Academy, Penza, Russia

Summary. The article describes some of the challenges faced by a young fam­ily. Some of these problems are unique to Russia, while others are relevant to most European countries.

Key words: problem, family, spouse.

More recently, a marriage in Russia was allowed in 18 years, but in­crease cases of teenage pregnancy and birth rates in the country has de­creased, and now marriage is permitted from the age of 16, but in the presence of pregnancy. What's interesting is, if the groom is older than 18, he will be allowed to marry, and then sent to prison.

Typically, in workers families and in the countryside are getting married soon. The young man immediately after the army, that is 20 years old. Students rarely get married, because it is very difficult to com­bine studies and family life. In general, we can note that a lot of mar­riages is due to pregnancy, but, sadly, many marriages fall apart after the

birth.

Modern Russian family faced with many problems.

1. Lack of proper housing. Purchase the own apartment is pos­sible for very wealthy people. Ordinary people live in apartments that are inherited from grandparentes or that they provided the Soviet state, now the state allocates very little free apartments. A young family has to live with parents, often of the wife. But in this case, the chances of family quarrels between mother-in law and son-in-lar. We say "2 hostess at a kitchen can't live". If the couple lives with the husband's parents, con­flicts tend to occur among mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In recent years, many people began to rent the apartment or room in the commu­nal kitchen that takes up most of the family budget. Many families regu­larly move from apartment to apartment, unable to buy their own homes. Particularly acute the problem is in Moscow, where the price of apart­ments in dozens of times higher than in the province. You can take a bank loan, but the couple should have a good salary.

2. Child birth is associated with caring mother on maternity leave. You can sit at home up to 3 years, but in this case, a woman re­ceives a small allowance and the family actually lives on the earnings of her husband. Unfortunately, not every man can feed 3 people on his sal­ary. Some women go to work immediately after childbirth, not to lose in salary and professionalism.

3. Placing the child in kindergarten. Parents must apply in advance and pay a bribe.

4. Several children. Many people in theory would have many chil­dren, but they can not keep them at a decent level. Therefore, most fami­lies have 1-2 children, giving birth is very rare 3-4. Typically, many chil­dren in the family of alcoholics, because they do not think about how to feed and educate them. Sometimes drinkers mother deprived of parental rights, a childe goes to a orphanage, and she immidiantly gave birth one more. And not because wants to have children, but because it never oc­curs to use the contratseptivs, which by the way are worth the money.

5. To psychological problems include violation of the tradi­tional family script. Previously, family roles were distributed this way: husband-father worked, at which time his wife was engaged in the household and children. When her husband returned from work, she fed him dinner, took care of him, that is, acted as servant. But modern life has made great adjustments. The woman, in most cases can not and do not want to be a homemaker. At work, she makes no concessions to it and impose the same requirements as a man. Often women do not earn less than her husband. Accordingly, a woman waiting for her husband's partnerships and segmentation with household chores. However, Rus­sian men are mostly adhere to the patriarchal view of family. They re­quire maintenance himself, tired at work, from the wife and do not want to do "female duties". Thus, the wife not only worked on the job as a pro­fessional, but also works as a housekeeper. Demanding that women carry out its "female" responsibilities, men often forget about their "male", that is, the material provision for the family, responsible decision-making. All responsibility for the family is a woman and a man behaving like a guest, comes home from work, often after the visit to a pub and lays on the couch watching television.

1. Drinking men is a serious problem. Despite the fact that Russia is in the middle ranking countries by the number of alcohol con­sumption, drinking men provides a lot of trouble. Rather than carry their earned a pittance to the family home, the man goes to a pub where half the money spent on drinks. A wife should somehow get out to feed and clothe their children. Drunk father gives a negative example for children. If free time man belongs to alcohol and his comrades, then on communi­cation with children, transfer them to the life experience and vocational skills is not enough time.

6. Heavy drinking is often associated with scandals between spouses, which negatively affects the psyche of children, and fights. Many Russian men beats their wives and children. Thus, growing a new generation of angry and unhappy, which is not other way to communi­cate, but the scandals and fights.

7. We have not developed a culture of leisure in the family. Some lucky people can spend their leisure time with family interesting: go ski­ing, mushrooming, ride bikes, go hiking. But in very many families, holi­day devoted to cleaning and cooking dinner. In entertainment facilities or visit the children with the mother or parents without children.

So, modern Russian families face problems that are similar other European families.