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If you fluctuate and are up and down like an idiot, forget it. You are another Henry/ Smith, Jack, whatever it is. Then for her it is another time-to-time relationship. It is temporary. Don't establish a relationship with anybody on a time-to- time basis. It is going to be totally insane as far as you as a male.are concerned.

Q; How do you know when you're leading a woman and when you're manipulating a woman?

Yogi Bhajan: Well, manipulation is when you treat her as an object, That is when you are manipulating a woman. The moment she knows that you are manipulating her, then you are being manipulated and the woman will never trust you. Remember, I told you about woman as a snake in the armpit. Once a woman is convinced of an idea in the depth of her mind, the subconscious, it is very difficult to change. She is a polarity. If she feels you are a cheat, you'll have to become a saint—200%. I can give you my own example. When I got married, I was an administrator. I was an officer in the government of India, wearing a lot of brass on my shoulders. My life was, "Yes. No. This. That." Do you understand? Part of my life I was still ayogi, but it was a side. Now the main part of my life is as a yogi, but my wife still feels that I am this man who is an executive. This morning when I telephoned her, I asked her about her health. She said, "I know I should have talked to you and asked you to pray for me. I would have been healthier." Now it is a constant for her. After 9 years, she has started to understand that I am more a divine man than an executive man.

I'm saying a life can totally happen, and when you are constant, when you are continuous, when you are very direct, when you are very honest, then everything is cool. It takes time and you must use that time. Don't try to hurry

of the United States;'What do 1lose, who.is who?.Does it matter? It doesn't matter. I cannot focus my security in a manJn a government I have to focus my security in God. Whether it is a phony security or it is a real security, it's my consciousness that has to answer. For my practical purposes and my training, I have to be with my God now and forever. That'swhy, for most of the things I want to do, I get corrected automatically by Mother Nature. I am not to hassle. That's why in my relationships I am very blunt and direct It is much better to establish that now than later. You understand? But to some people it looks like I am a man, that I have emotions, that I have commotions, and that, therefore, I can be manipulated. Unfortunately, when they find they cannot manipulate me, they become very disgusting.

I have a tremendous opposition because people want me: "All right, please come and pray for me." I say, "Why should I go to your house? You are a cursed person and all your earnings are bad. I can't eat at your table." Do you think that man will like me? No. He will tell everyone what an idiot I am, that I am no holy person because he has to satisfy his ego. )

When somebody asked me for a second visit, I said, "Wait a minute, I went the first time and I told you what to do. You have not done it You are a very idiotic man and I won't visit your house again." I asked him to establish the relationship between him and his God, which he promised. Why should I go a second time? To become a social object? i'm a divine object! My purpose is to seed the Divinity. Therefore, I'm not an entertainment.

That's what I said to you that night: I am not Bob Hope. I am The Hope. I am not a comedian to entertain you, and I don't run the "Yogi Bhajan Show." I want to seed that hope in everybody. I want to seed a seed that sprouts. I want to seed a seed that grows. That's my happiness. And that's exactly what I meant when I said I'm not a man. Thank you for asking and clearing it up.

G; What can a man do when a woman is being very quiet?

Yogi Bhajan: Do you understand when the weather is quiet what happens next? When a woman is quiet it is exactly like when the weather is quiet. Estimate then how many miles away the storm is. You are going to be hit by a hurricane. And you can measure exactly its strength by how silent she is. It is not her nature to be silent

Q: I understand what's going to come. But where is that coming from?

Yogi Bhajan: It comes from the very depth of her; all that she has gathered for the time being is called low pressure. When she becomes angry within, she will express that anger outwardly. There is no difference between the two.

Q: Also if you feel that she is progressing spiritually, but maybe not as much as you are...?

Yogi Bhajan: Fine, when she is progressing spiritually, tell her to practice it, to show it. That is the best thing that can happen. When awoman says, "I am divine.'' Tell her, "Thank you. Then I am safe." Then she can't say anything to you. Reach her etheric nature and you are safe with every vyoman..

If you can reach the Mother Nature, then what you have is a nurse in your hand. You will be served. She will give you massages, good food, wonderful laundry. Everything is done because of that nursing nature. Forget operating on a 50/50 basis: if she washes your shirt, then you have to wash her pajamas. On a 50/50 basis she can be so cruel you can't even believe it. You understand? If you start becoming even with a woman, "Air right, you start doing my laundry"; she will say, "All right, I'll do your laundry, you cook the meals." Instead, her nature, the nursing nature, which God has given her in abundance, you can use to manipulate her to any extent and she won't feel the pain.

Q:Are you saying at that point to direct herspiritually?

YogiBhajan: Definitely. When she is silent, talk to her. Read Japji. Loud. One day I got a funny call:

He said, "Sir, my wife is meditating, you understand?"

I said, "Sure. But read Peace Lagoon loudly so that she can hear."

He said, "Sir, I don't have my book. What should I do?" I said, "Do you have any tapes?"

He said, "I have got a tape recorder and tapes in my car." I said, "Can it be removed?"

He said, "Yes."

I said, "Play the tape."

So he pulled out the tape recorder, put atape in it and started playing shabds. She started singing with the tape. Then she said, "I'm not that mad at you that you have to play this Gurbani Kirtan to me. I'm not going to kill you. I was just thinking about it."

And he checked it out and found that she had gone right to the bed pillow where he always kept his revolver. Later on she said, "I just wanted to kill you; I went to find the revolver, but it was not there. And I was thinking where you could have put it; I was concentrating." That was when he found her meditating. So when she becomes silent, then something is becoming silent. And when that moves, god of death moves with it. Don't misunderstand: a silent woman is of no good to you. They must talk. A talking woman is much safer than a silent woman.

Q: Sir, if a man is earning money and providing for his wife and for their house, and she begins to think, because of his attitude about earning it, that she is not contributing and so she wants to go out and get ajob so

she can earn money to contribute...?

Yogi Bhajan: That only happens when she feels earthly insecurity—that money is not enough. Woman is very particular in mathematics, income and liabilities. This is because every woman would like to save something for security. When she feels money pressure, she always likes to contribute, gofind ajob, do this, do that__ Inother words, all she is telling you is that you are not earning enough.

Q: Well, should she have a chance to have some say?

Yogi Bhajan: Under those circumstances, sit down and discuss it with her. Don't ignore it. When woman gives you a confrontation, confront it. Don't back off. Most men do that. They back off and this causes more trouble in their life than anything else can cause.

Q: When a woman gets the environment that she needs, but she still worries about money, what is the cause of that?

Yogi Bhajan: Her own insecurity. Money is the other man to her. Money doesn't mean anything. Money is just another man to her. When she talks about money, she is indirectly communicating that she's not putting her security in you. That's a very simple indication that she's dissatisfied, and then you have to approach her very analytically and go into the very depth of it.

Sometimes a woman would like to spend more nrtoney and make you feel impotent when you cannot meet your bills. Woman is to you maya, money, used in every way, to clutch you. Sometimes she will come out with money to help you cover it. Have you seen that? So she can make you understand that she is a participant. Money and woman are—they call it two sides of the coin, and heads they win and tails you lose—they're the same thing.

Q: I think basically you are talking about howto establish new relationships in a proper way. When you have a longstanding relationship that is kind of out of balance, do you apply the same principles to correct it?

[Yogi Bhajan gives a demonstration using kinesiology to reinforce certain universal concepts. A young man who is not in 3H0 comes up from the audience to volunteer as a subject. He is 20 years old. Yogi Bhajan asks him to stand and raise his right arm perpendicular to his body. Then he asks him to resist his efforts to push his arm back down to his side. The subject is able to resist. Yogi Bhajan makes a slashing motion across his body from the left shoulder down to his right side. Asking the subject to again raise his arm and resist, he easily pushes his arm down. Then he presses the subject firmly at the Heart Center (the sternum), the Navel Center, and the reproductive center (the pubic bone) with the heel of his hand and then asks him to raise his arm again. This time the subject successfully resists the pushing on his arm].

Q: What did you do?

Yogi Bhajan: First I cut his aura diagonally with my hand, and as you observed, he had no strength; then I blessed his three points and his strength returned.

You do not believe me when I tell you that you are not just this body. Your energy is in your aura and your aura extends nine feet from your skin. The animal aura is three and a half feet; metal things and other inanimate objects are a foot and a half; the human aura is nine feet. There are two things which can increase the size of the aura: white Clothing and cotton cloth. When you wear white, cotton clothing from top to bottom, you can increase your aura up to three times. This is under all circumstances, even if you are at your lowest ebb. That's a law of the universe.

[Yogi Bhajan proceeds with his demonstration: this time he has the subject put his left hand into Gyan Mudra (index fingertip touching the tip of the thumb) and then put the mudra at his Third Eye Point. Asking the subject to raise his right arm. Yogi Bhajan finds that he is unable to lower his arm. Now he asks the subject to place the mudra at the pubic bone and to press in firmly. The subject is totally unable to resist the pressure and his arm lowers easily]

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[Yogi Bhajan continues his demonstration: "Close your eyes, please." Yogi Bhajan asks his secretary, a woman, to touch the subject's foot As she is touching his foot Yogiji applies the technique, The subject is somewhat weakened. He then has the subject open his eyes and look at the woman. When Yogi Bhajan repeats the muscle test, the subject is totally weak and cannot resist atmlL]

Q: What does that mean?

Yogi Bhajan: I want to share with you how man functions on a scientific level The moment a man looks at a woman, with just the sight of her he becomes one-third his norma! strength. When he listens to her, the ratio is Va, and when he touches her it is Vs, That is the amount of influence a woman has on a man. Saying you don't care, or you don't understand is idiotic, Pushing your chest out and pulling your chin in doesn't mean a thing because you can't beat the laws of nature.

You must understand one thing: your polarity, man to woman, is heavier than one over two. This is because you are born out of woman: If you do not understand woman, you do not understand yourself.

Now Til tell you something very funny. The majority of you do not know inwhich posture you can have physical intercourse with a woman. This is the majority of you. In my 9 years of living in the United States of America, I have talked with so many people and I have seen so many people. The majority of relationships break because the majority of women do not know how to get intercoursed and the majority of men do not know how to intercourse. That is why in intercourse you lose energy, Actually you should gain energy. Discharge is not a small thing: Eighty drops of blood make one drop of semen and you discharge almost 50 drops in a normal ejaculation. Let us figure it out— hat is 50 to 80—it is about 4,000 drops of blood. Think about it

You have three nervous systems: sympathetic, parasympathetic and the action [motor! nervous system, If your parasympathetic is out of balance, you will have a hard time getting an erection. If your sympathetic is out of action, you will ejaculate quickly. If your action nervous system is out of balance, you will have aproblem ejaculating at all. Now these are the three systems which have to be in balance before you even go near a woman. Some of you go near a Woman and before she does anything, you ejaculate. Others of you start having sex at seven o'clock in the morning and by nine in the evening you are still there, where you started. Now does this imbalance happen?

Now I'll tell you the secret. Remember the word, three, and remember the word, seven. Together they are thirtyseven. A woman should have an aura of seven feet. That means that you will-feel great If her aura is less than '

three feet less than that of an animal; your energy level will be down for a week. The intercourse doesn't mean a thing. The intercourse takes from you the strength of the blood through your semen. But intercourse can give you the strength of this blood; it can give you life. For this to happen you must understand that woman is not flesh. Woman is aura. Woman is aura. Woman is aura. When you have intercourse with a woman who is negative, a woman whose aura is not seven feet, you will lose your strength. Until you have a divine order to do it, don't do it at all.

The men who masturbate do not realize the physical difference between ejaculations: ejaculation through masturbation pressurizes the gray matter; It is heavy on the brain. It creates more problems than any sexual activity. To be very frank with you, homosexual interplay is better than masturbation. Masturbation causes a triple action on the pituitary gland which takes away your power to concentrate. 1will say, "Don't masturbate." If you can't help .it, run, and you'll ;,be all right.

We recommend an underwear that can hold the testicles and the organs, This is a guarantee to your strength. It is a special underwear called kachera; it is an Indian underwear made of cotton cut on the diagonal. The legs come to the knees where they fit snugly. Because of the form of the kachera, a wind pocket is created on the thighs, where the balance of the calcium and the magnesium in the body is controlled via the thigh bone. The sexual energy iscontrolled by the sciatic nerve. The pressure point or sensitive area for this is just above the knee. The kachera is tight at that place so that pressure point is stimulated all the time from the action of walking. Also, the snug band provides for an air block which creates a constant temperature around the genitals.

Just as you breathe in left and right nostril cycles, your scrotum expands and contracts. Sometimes this skin stretches so long that your testicles touch the water when you sit on the toilet; other times, you do not know where they are they are so contracted. Now if you do not have the proper underwear and you do not control that area, the testicles can become lodged. This is the beginning of sexual problems for the male, the beginning of male frigidity. That is why we recommend this special kachera. Furthermore, you need to wear this underwear when you bathe. This is a precautionary measure. By doing this, the genitals are protected from temperature changes and water pressure and kept under control. The idea of wearing the underwear in the bath or shower may surprise you, so you need to experience it for yourself.

In the ancient days, man used a loin cloth. This is a triangle of cloth which is tied in such a way that the male organ and testicles are completely supported. This is the best type of undergarment. Next is the kachera worn by the Sikhs. Third is your freedom to choose whatever you want

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to choose to keep that area under physical control. Like the bra of a woman, which keeps the tissue of the breasts from breaking down, the right underwear is a human necessity. This is very important and it is smart as you grow older.

To have mutually gratifying intercourse, there are certain conditions that you must meet. Initially you must not have eaten for at least two and a half hours. If your bodily energy is centered in your digestive tract, sexual interaction will cause you a lot of problems. Secondly, you must not be constipated and if you need to clear your bowels, you must do so. Don't say, "All right, 111go to the bathroom later, let me have sex now." This is very foolish behavior. Thirdly, in a normal gesture, you must give yourself two to three hours time. And even then, you must start from the woman; you must touch her and caress her,

The woman has nine highly sensitive areas which are called moon centers. There is an order in which these centers need to be touched using any technique you wish. First, the breasts; second, the neck; third, the lips; fourth isthe cheeks, Number five is the ears a most sensitive moon area. After the ears, remember the spine. Then the thighs are seven; the calves, eight; and the clitoris or vagina, nine, if you use any other order, you are an idiot. Furthermore, this act must not take less than 30 minutes to an hour. Within that time, playing with that kind of energy, in this kind of area, and in this kind of order, your woman will have the 7 to 9 foot aura that you need. If you cannot take that much time and you cannot adopt this procedure, you had better sleep.

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Once you have stimulated the woman s moon centers, the time comes to enter her. There are three different positions of the opening to the vagina; upper, normal and lower. The lower

vagina is so far backfrom the beginning of the genital cleft that |0 enter the woman from the front, you need to use pillows to rajse her buttocks 6 to 12 inches. Actually, in this posture y0U can comfortably enter from the back. Also, it is easier for the woman with a lower vagina to be on top of you rather than under you. Out of 100 women, 60 will have a lower vaginal entry. That means that 60% of all women are in this category,

percent have normal entry and 30% have upper,

The woman with an upper entry has no problem with orgasm. She can reach that optimum point more times than you can imagine. Because her vagina and her clitoris are so close together, all she needs is a little touch, a little entry, a little doing and there she goes. However, she will

:discharge and relax so much that there will be a great deal of lubricant. You will not know whether you are having intercourse or swimming. For her it is far out, but for you it can be too much. Sex with the woman who has a normal entry is regular, rhythmic and good for both of you. The 60% is a problem—never satisfied, always bitching, always complaining, always blaming, With this woman all 9 rules must be applied, especially number 9, the clitoris. During the act, she can stimulate herself through the clitoris; it is not a bad thing. And in case you have done away [ejaculated], don't walk away; satisfy her through the clitoris and bring her to tiding.

A woman never masturbates. In the case of a woman, it is called "tiding" and she needs to be brought to tiding a minimum of four times after the male ejaculates. If she has not aroused herself enough to come and you do not find that her nails have gone into your skin and her teeth have not given you a biting, which is very normal behavior, then

you must stimulate her to three or four tidings. You will find that after that, she will quite naturally turn over and go to sleep. Remember! You start with the breasts. Normally in this country, no one bothers with their existence. ,

Question and A n s w e r

Q: Are you using your hands or your mouth or both?

Yogi Bhajan: You are free to use anything. Do your best. That is my answer.

Q: With the lower vagina, putting the pillows under the woman changes the angle so that,..?

Yogi Bhajan: Yes. She has to change the angle; she has to raise her legs and you have to help her with this.

Q: Does this tend to change the clitoris contact?

Yogi Bhajan: It will move it, which helps. She has to get those tidings and you have to help her.

Q: You said something a few years ago about putting her legs over your shoulders...?

Yogi Bhajan:Yes. That is numberthree. If the vaginal mouth is so low that there is just no stimulation for the woman, put her legs on your shoulders. It is a perfect posture, out of the 84 that I have discussed with you.

Q: I don't understand the tidings.

Yogi Bhajan: Whenever you use friction to ejaculate, it is a type of masturbation for you. In intercourse this masturbation is with awoman. However, when the woman is stimulated through the clitoris, she gets a kind of feeling of ejaculation which is called tiding, moon tide. In her case, there is actually no discharge, where in your case there is.

Q: Do you mean a woman can masturbate without damage?

Yogi Bhajan: I don't think that a woman has any damage whatsoever from mastur . . . but I don't use the term masturbation. That doesn't exist in the case of a woman.

Q: But she can have good tidings anytime she wants?

Yogi Bhajan: I am not jealous of it. That is the way God made her.

Q: Our women will love to see us when we get back.

Yogi Bhajan: I am not saying anything; I am just sharing with you whatever it is. Whether it is good or bad is not my problem. I am teaching you just like at the university. I am explaining to you that woman has no such thing as masturbation. It is unfortunately so for the male and males became so insane doing it that they started cutting their foreskin just to get out of it—to the extent that about one percent results in death or deformity. That is how circumcision started in the world.

Q: Is yoga an antidote to masturbation?

■Yogi Bhajan: A child can masturbate even when he is two years old. Sometimes you will find them masturbating much' better than the adult. It is a question of how the erection comes. Children are very sensitive and they don't know what to do. They start fondling and you need to just divert their attention lovingly. But you start him masturbating because you become curious and start reacting to it. He then becomes a good masturbator.

One girl started having this kind of a situation by going on a pole. She would get on a pole and rub that area; her clitoris would be stimulated and she would have a tiding and she would enjoy it. And she wanted to go on longer and longer. Pole and parents started trouble and she became insane and was sent to a psychiatrist. He asked her and she admitted that she enjoyed it. Innocent. She didn't know what it was about. So they would chain her and cut her in the back and all that—and problems started. She was almost 38 when she met me and told me, 1told her it's a very simple situation. Whenever she feels a little itch, however that is, put a little turmeric and yogurt, you know a douche with yogurt and turmeric? Yogurt will save your woman from a lot of infections. And sometimes she experiences a certain smell when she ovulates; it is a very pungent smell, but if she knows how to clean herself, then it is fine.

Q: In the notes from Ladies' Camp11was reading that the woman goes through a rotation of her different moon centers.

Yogi Bhajan: That is well-explained.

Q: Isn't there any way for a man to know which stage she is in?

Yogi Bhajan: No. That is what you have to concentrate on. That is why I told you to touch on these nine points; you start with one and as you touch them all, you will know where her moon is.

Q: When a little girl eventually discovers that her clitoris is sensitive, how should her mother respond to her?

Yogi Bhajan: I do not think the clitoris should not be sensitive. It's very normal, but sometimes it overdevelops itself to the size of a pigeon egg, then it has to be taken care of surgically.

Yogi Bhajan:, There are -two inctsion-ltfoe-rnarks where'that secretion comes out. Nowadays, it is said this secretion which comes out of that semen under the skin causes cancer because it is not clean. Actually it is the food of the woman's vagina, Normally a man is supposed to be in one 28-day moon cycle for intercourse, When he has intercourse/that secretion is cleaned out in the woman. It is plucked out by her membrane, which gives strength to her pituitary gland and her pineal gland. That is the way nature made it. Now I am not going to change your local belief system, but 1am going to share with you whatever is explained in the old scriptures.

G; What effect does circumcision have on the exchange of this secretion ?

Yogi Bhajan: God bless them, It happened. What should I do? A little bit might be coming from somewhere, Otherwise, you know, after intercourse a woman can be very depressed sometimes—and that is why. Two things can spoil intercourse. Sometimes she is, herself, very wet, or sometimes the male organ does not supply that "butter of life." That little secretion, which happened with that little cut, is called "butter of life" and it is very rare.

Q: How does being circumcised or not circumcised have an effect on that?

Yogi Bhajan: When you are circumcised the secretion is produced, but it cannot be stored. You know circumcision was not a good idea. Actually circumcision began as an anti-masturbation^drive; It was felt that if the organ was circumcised, one would not be able to masturbate. There is a wonderful article in Human Nature I would like you to read. It is a very thorough study of the reasons for circumcision, the dangers of it and why it is unnecessary. Sometimes we maintain certain rituals without recognizing their effects. [Circumcision] started even before masturbation had reached the point of insanity. Take that article in Human Nature and study it. It's a well-explained scientific article.

G: in the uncircumcised male child, do you clean away that secretion?

Yogi Bhajan: After the third or fourth year, you can just tip it back and he can clean it himself.

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■caused-that way. There .are Jews who have cancer. There are circumcised Muslim boys with cancer. Cancer has something different as its cause. To be very frank with you, cancer is the problem of an over-heavy protein diet That is, if you want to know about cancer; eat too much protein and you will get cancer whether you like it or not. An alkaline body doesn't have cancer. It can't create it. Too much acidity is what makes you unhealthy,

G; In our perfect design, why is it we have to have the kachera. Why isn't it designed in somehow? Why do we have to add that to the body?

Yogi Bhajan: It is because of weather. There are four seasons and you have no protection from them. Your skin is not your protection. You are not a lion nor are you a bear. So you have to wear clothes. I would prefer that everybody would wear cotton clothes. At least your underclothes, your shirts and shorts and kacheras, should be totally cotton, That is, if you want to live long and have a better life,

Q: Many times you've mentioned the air pocket What effect does the air have?

Yogi Bhajan: When you wear kacheras, the air controls the temperature by the creation of an air pocket.

G; What is the recommendation about intercourse during pregnancy and nursing?

Yogi Bhajan: During pregnancy, anytime after the first 120 days until the woman stops nursing there is to be no intercourse. No. No, No.

O; Until she stops giving milk? From the 120th day to that time, there is no sexual intercourse?

Yogi Bhajan: I said, "No. No, No." Three times. After 120 days, the soul enters the fetus. Actually, the baby is born on the 120th day. That is why there is a ritual for the mother on that day. Leave the woman alone, let her meditate, let her be happy, let her go in prayer, release her. And after the birth, she has to nurse the child, There is no substitute for a mother's milk. Remember that. You can tell me about experiments showing DDT in the mother's milk. Even lead has been found in the mother's milk. I say that even if they find potassium cyanide in the mother's milk, there is-still nothing equal to mother's milk and that child who is not nursed on it for at least six months will have a deficiency in social behavior. No matter what you do, you can't correct that.

Therearetwo securities that amother gives to her male child. The first is that the male child should be with her, in her bed, in her lap for at least six to nine months, come what may. Secondly, she must nurse the child from six months to one year. This gives him his fundamental malehood. Otherwise you are raising a baboon in your home. This is true whether you believe it or not. These results have been found to be true by the sages who never lied through the ages.

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Now I am going to work on the last phase of today's lectures: Phobias and the Man.

After 120 days, the soul enters the fetus. Got it? In 9 months and plus some days, it depends upon the moon cycle, the cord is cut and the first breath of life is taken. Either you are a male or you are afemale, In the first 3 years, your mother has to teach you the values of life. Whatever she can teach you, that is called "ingrained knowledge." At 7 years old, your father can give you values and security. Up to 11 years, you learn values and behavior, then that is the end of you. After 11, you learn nothing. You can accumulate, accommodate whatever you want to do; but your base, your foundation is already laid. Do you understand? First, the mother is teacher; then the

father; then the environments and relatives; and then comes

the spiritual teacher.

It is always better to instill values about the spiritual teacher in the child so that he can have something of faith. It is called faith and destiny. Without that, man is an orphan, in your life there has to be one man who can say,.“Hey!. Stop it!" That means you have the power to stop it Otherwise the sequence will lead to consequences and to construction and destruction—

God knows what. A spiritual teacher is nothing but an emergency brake. When that is applied, nothing moves. That is the importance of the spiritual teacher. A spiritual teacher is not your friend, not your enemy, not your altar, not your worship, not your knowledge, not your money, not your wife, not your husband. The spiritual teacher has no relationship with you, but functions only as an emergency brake. He or she must have the power to analyze you and say it to you straight. You are just in the wilderness without a compass. You don't know what the hell you are doing.

Remember: woman is an institution that has laws and bylaws. Man is an institution that has laws and bylaws. Parenthood is also an institution that has laws and bylaws. When these laws and bylaws are not followed, the children end up with certain problems. You may hate your mother. You may have a mother phobia. If your mother was harsh and strict in discipline, you will want your wife to be absolutely subservient. Then marry a Japanese woman;

don't marry an American woman. An American woman doesn't know how to bend more than three inches. Do you understand what I mean? They are among the most neurotic stock of women folk. This is because the American woman has been built by her own ego and also because American women and Oriental women are different women.

Do you know how many fathers have had intercourse with their own daughters? Thirty percent of the fathers have maliciously fondled—I am using a very delicate word— with their own born daughters. And if to this you add the stepfathers, 30% to 40% of the women in this country are molested by stepfathers or by relatives as teenagers. That is a horrible picture to represent. Now out of that, 10%

of the wives, the mothers, have conspired with the fathers. That is the most horrible breed born. There are 10% to 50% of women who have seen their father nude, or in undesirable situations. Now that is another situation. Women, out of the stress and pressure of the family, have run away from the ages of 13 to 21,

Now this is a category of woman we call insecure. An insecure woman is one who has ho connection or only a meager connection with the personality of the father whom she rejects.

When the woman rejects the father in the father phobia, she rejects every male, including her husband. Not that she's trying to fight you, not that she's trying to make a mess out of you, not that she wants to quarrel with you, but because that is her basic subconscious. Is that clear? A lot of men come under this category also. They had harsh mothers, or they have been lollipop kids. The "nah nah nab nab".babies.are the most hopeless of all in the human race because they cannot stick to anything they say: They end up saying "nah nah nab nab." We call them "banana men" with banana spines. These are those banana men. Whatever the woman says, “yes, yes, yes, yes." It is ridiculous. Even when they say "no," they say it in such a way that it ultimately becomes "yes."

Expect your wife to be your wife, not an equal. When you think her to be your equal that is the most disgraceful way of thinking: expect a lot of things out of her and you cannot deliver her anything. The first law is to establish

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