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Within each of us is a faculty to move our personality. It doesn't matter whether we are children, adults, or old men; we do move and we do project. We want to go. We want to project and conquer. The inborn attitude of man is to conquer. It is in his spermatozoa. To conquer is your basic natural faculty. But you forget the most beautiful aspect of it—your spermatozoa conquered the egg by entering it and becoming a part of it. It can never conquer th§ egg; it must penetrate it The power to penetrate is the basic power that makes-you male. Inthe male and female relationship, you dp the same thing your sperm does. Nature gave you the power to penetrate; Nature gave her the power to receive you and to relieve you of that power through which you desire to penetrate. Therefore,, there is a balance in the male/female relationship. You are motivated by your power to be hearty, to be projective, to be going in and penetrating. Then you move and you are relieved—you call this ejaculation. If you look at that basic human act, you can understand your total personality.

First it-is mental: thought.. Then -comes the’ essence: heartiness. Projection follows in the movement back and forth, then ejaculation, then relaxation, completing, conquering. This is your basic, fundamental, rhythmic law. Anything you do against this law will be a disaster. It bolls down to think, concentrate, project, penetrate, move, conquer. This is your fundamental base—the spermatozoa; you must understand this.

All action of the spermatozoa is caused by the movement of its tail. Your ego is your tail. Put your ego behind you where it can move you. Don't put it up front. That's the secret of success. Whoever puts his ego behind will penetrate. That is the primary lesson you need to learn as a male. The spermatozoa is the male seed. It moves forward by moving its tail. Put your ego behind you and go forward. If you put your ego in front you can never penetrate and you desire to penetrate. No man can relax without penetrating. But no man can enjoy without conception. When the female conceives, you are very joyful. Why? Because you have conquered; you have projected your subtle ego. Now, you feel you will not die; you have conquered death. You feel that you have come to be through the spermatozoa and through spermatozoa you are going to be again. Do you understand this about your subtle self?

You are moving from one meditative state to another meditative state, because you love yourself; it is not because you love children. Don't misunderstand that, for

God's sake. You have been brainwashed. There is no such thing as the love of children. It is very common, in fact, for children to be molested and mistreated or wrongly treated because they are being raised by parents who are not loving. The child is your subtle projection of your own creativity, and your own love, into which you have projected yourself.

You are the seed. What can you do as a seed? Study the spermatozoa. It circles the egg eight times before penetrating it, before merging with it So whenever you want to conquer anything—go around it Normally that is not what you do. You go directly into it. We call it "male disaster." It doesn't matter what your faculty is, what intelligence you have, how rich you are, how poor you are; if you zoom directly in like an arrow, you will be broken in the middle. Is that clear? Is it understandable?

What you must learn is called "leaving the ego behind." You can go and conquer anybody by circling around and around and around them. In doing this, you totally stimulate the psyche of the person in ratio to your own proportion, and in this ratio and proportion, the other person becomes willing, becomes willing, becomes very willing to give in. But when you confront them and hit directly, you will never be effective. Confrontation is not your basic faculty and it never will be your basic faculty. If you want to merge with anything, go around it. You will be saved from destruction and you will save the other party from destruction. It is a principle of life that is unchangeable in its very nature.

You can sweat in life. You can work hard. You can work very hard to be successful. You want to be successful, you go out, you hit hard, you hit your head and then you faint. You use the same approach sexually and 40% of you fade sexually. That's the average; 40% fade and 60% are either too quick or too late. That makes 100%, and over that, you're lucky. Forty percent of the people are sexually inadequate because they are in a rush. They are not normal; within their sexual faculties, they are self-destructive, unloving and self-negating in this dimension of their lives.

Yourbasic rhythm, your basicfoundation, your basic blueprint is determined by certain principles. You can't change it. It is your basic human faculty. To develop your psyche around a person, you must meet him. But meanwhile, you forget how to talk and you start 'wining and dining'. The feeling is that if you cannot reach the head then you will reach the stomach. Do you understand why people drink? When they

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drink, they get a little loose and they can talk. The booze offers a shelter, When people are sober, they realize that when they speak they need to speak wisely. Because they don't have much wisdom to speak of, they have to get a little high so that they can talk some foolishness.

But actually you are very sensitive. You are very sensitive and very penetrating, it is your faculty as a human being to penetrate. God gave you the basic, fundamental power to penetrate through anything. But you don't do it. You go and hit hard, you hit directly. You can understand the greatest secret of success by looking at the basic sexual act. Look at nature and look at your own creativity.

( want to share with you that your very fundamental self has been made in a very simple, mechanical way. Your basic sensitivity lies within your own sexual method of creating life. Everything is all right. You only need to study it. Here in the West, sex is either a sensitivity, a sensitive creativity, or a pleasure—no! Actually, sex is a study of the fundamental you.

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I knowthat these arevery heavy subjects that I amdiscussing and they should be taken very politely—and lightly. The fundamental requirement of the human character is sex. Sex is a teacher. Creativity and creativeness come from the sexual act. Sex is the sixth sense, which contains all our dimensions, relative and irrelative. Sex is the part of your life that should give you success. I am not speaking of sex as you understand it in the Western world. That's not sex; that's a sexual sensitivity. It is performed with the attitude of just 'getting into it' and it is totally destructive. Sex, as I'm speaking of it, is a necessity, a biological necessity. It's a creativity, it's relaxing, it's very projective and expansive.

For each sexual act, when you get into the second phase, you re-create the other sexual act. It is called phase one of creativity. However, some of you are so sexual that you want sex 6 times during the night and 8 times a day—that's 14 times a day. Rabbits do the same thing. Someone once told me that his capacity was 18 times a day and his wife confirmed it. I asked him if he could reduce it to 12 times a day and he said, "No." I told him he could make a lot of money if he could teach people how to have sex 18 times a day and still walk. Now it has been two years and he is beginning to realize that it was too much.

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Yogi Bhajan: Don't feel guilty if you have done it out of rhythm. There are two recipes you can use. First take chawan prash rolled in silver leaf every day with 8 oz. of milk either for your breakfast or along with whatever else you want to eat for breakfast. Secondly, eat two pistachio paranthas for your food one day of each week.

Q: How long should we take the chawan prash?

Yogi Bhajan: You haveto take itfor a longtime. It isanAyurvedic remedy and Ayurveda is a building system. It will keep you going and build you up gradually and slowly. Both allopathy and homeopathy are wonderful systems,which hit right on the spot but Ayurveda builds.

Currently we are creating a formula to build potency. I am going to test it myself. It is part of an herbal remedy series we are producing. We call itthe "FT series and it is basedon the ancient herbal formulas from the old; old times when those wise, non­ mechanical people cared for themselves. The male potency is called "17-R." There is another with a chili base called "14-R."1

Q: How do we go about teaching our children not to have intercourse before they are the proper age?

Yogi Bhajan: My grandfather sat me down and talked to me exactly as I am talking to you. It took him three days to explain everything to me. He told me about maturity and how the organ develops. He told me about semen and about blood. He explained the amount of pressure intercourse hason the thyroid and parathyroid. He told me everything.

In my life, I experimented and found that he was absolutely accurate. Don't think I didn't do anything wrong. Left to my own recourse, I would have made many blunders. I am a rebel. But, thank God, I was taught in time. Unfortunately, I didn't realize that I was going to have to come to the United States. If I had known that I would not have married until I was 50. With your own children, you have to be very friendly, very honest and very straightforward; let them understand what's going on in the world.

0: What causes wet dreams and what preventive measures can be taken so thatyou don't develop them?

Yogi Bhajan: Heavy exercise and meditation are the best ways to control this. One student told me, "I just want to live a celibate lifestyle." And she gave me her past history. There was no exercise facility available to her, but there was a very large courtyard where she lived. It was about 90 feet by 90 feet.

1These formulas are available from Herbal Gems and can be purchased through Ancient Healing Ways: www.a~healing.com of through your local health food store.

I advised her to buy a soccer ball and use that. She bought the ball and she plays with it for an hour or two until she sweats. Then she bathes, goes to bed and sleeps. She never has any problems.

She used to have horrible dreams. Not just wet dreams, but sweat-wet dreams. Her dreams were very peculiar, incredible dreams. She would dream that someone would come and rape her, cut her neck and drink her blood and then cut off her foot and eat it. She would dream these dreams night after night after night. Now—-nothing.

Meditation isalsoverywonderful forgetting ridofthe garbage— mental as well as physical. It is very potent.

Q: Whyis it thatgirls begin menstruating three or four years earlier than those of a decade ago?

Yogi Bhajan: This is due to the influence of television. Our lives are in great jeopardy because of TV and the media. We are being mistreated. You have no idea how deeply horror movies and that type of programming affect our children.

Once I walked into a house where a group of children were watching TV. There were at least five children in the group. In four minutes, I was upside down because the program was so horrible, so horrible! A man cut off a woman's leg, then he had intercourse with her while she was bleeding to death. And, there were the children, watching it! What do you expect?

Q: You once said in a lecture that if a person had ever done cocaine, he could never experience God. Is there any way we can compensate for this behavior?

Yogi Bhajan: Yes. Breath of Fire and Sa-Ta-Na-Ma meditation arethe fundamental techniques which can correct and cure any situation. Half an hour of Breath of Firewill helpthose who have sniffed cocaine even to the point of bursting their noses and it will also help those who have done much worse things than cocaine.

It's no big deal. It is based on simple logic. I don't believe in making it complicated, where you have to be shrouded in mystery.

Q: is there any particular mudra or posture we should use for Sa-Ta-Na-Ma's and the Breath of Fire?

Yogi Bhajan: We have given all this and it is very commonly available to you. This course is not to discuss Sa-Ta-Na-Ma meditation. [Editor's Note: Yogi Bhajan is referring to Kirtan Kriya.]

Q: What negative effect, if any, occurs if one gets stimulated and doesn't ejaculate?

Yogi Bhajan: Oh, it's very boring and it's very painful, isn't it? In the scriptures the woman who does that is called a "pig woman," soorneeaa. In the orient calling someone a

Two Techniques to Save the Day

Breath of Fire and Sa-Ta-Na-Ma meditation [Kirtan

Kriya] are the fundamental techniques which can correct and cure any situation: 31minutes of Breath of Fire and

31minutes of Sa-Ta-Na-Ma are the most effective tools we can apply. We state publically that we know the results are 100% effective— 100%. There's no duality in our mind about it and there shouldn't be any duality in any mind. There's nothing more than that. Everything else isjust talking.

If a person wants to declare himself a god or a guru. Qod bless him. I'm not going to be down on anybody. But

all meditation stops at Sa-Ta-Na-Ma. There’s nothing beyond it. fill pranayam stops at Breath of Fire. There's no pranayam beyond that. If your pranic body can overtake all the bodies, then you will be hale, healthy and perfect.

Breath of Fire

practiced and mastered by the student. In Breath of Fire, the focus of the energy is at the Navel Point. The breath is fairly rapid (2 to 3 breaths per second), continuous and powerful with no pause between the inhale and exhale, /is you exhale, the air is pushed out by pulling the Navel

Point and abdomen toward the spine. In this motion, the chest area remains fairly relaxed. The inhalation will occur naturally from the vacuum created by the exhale. This is a very balanced breath with no emphasis on either the exhale or the inhale, but rather equal power given to both. The inhale will feel easier than the exhale because the natural force of (he diaphragm relaxing helps it.

Breath of Fire is a cleansing breath, renewing the blood and releasing old toxins from the lungs. mucous lining, blood vessels, and ceils. It is a powerful way to adjust your autonomic nervous system and get rid of stress.

Regular practice expands the lungs quickly. You can start with 3 minutes of Breath of Fire and build to

31 minutes.

Kirtan Kriya

Sa-Ta-Na-Ma, the Panj Shabd, is used in dozens of kriyas and meditations that Yogi Bhajan gave over the years. Kirtan Kriya is the foundation meditation using this sound current. It clears the subconscious and the arcline. It can be done for 11 minutes to 2 v:: hours, but 31 minutes is the most common discipline.

awareness of the things of the world experiencing the longing to belong meditate on Infinity or mentally vibrate

To Begin the Practice

Sit straight in Easy Pose and meditate at the Brow Point.

Chant aloud for 5 minutes, then whisper for 5 minutes and then go deeply into silence, mentally vibrating the sound. Vibrate in silence for 10 minutes, then whisper for 5 minutes, then chant aloud for 5 minutes.

Close the meditation with a deep inhale and suspend the breath as long as comfortable— up to a minute— relaxing it smoothly to complete 1 minute of absolute stillness and silence.

To end: Stretch the hands up as far as possible and spread the fingers wide. Stretch the spine and take several deep breaths. Relax.

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Each time you close a mudra by joining the thumb with a finger, your ego seals the effect of that mudra in your consciousness. The effects are as follows:

Practicing this chant brings a total mental balance to the individual psyche. As you vibrate on each fingertip, you alternate your electrical polarities. The index and ring fingers are electrically negative, relative to the other fingers. This causes a balance in the electro-magnetic projection of the aura. If during the silent part of the meditation your mind wanders uncontrollably, go back to a whisper, to a loud voice, to a whisper and back into silence. Do this as often as necessary to stay alert.

Practicing this meditation is both a science and an art. It is an art in the way it molds consciousness and the refinement of sensation and insight it produces. It is a science in the tested certainty of the results it produces. Each meditation is based on the tested experience of

many people, in many conditions, over many years. It is based on the structure of the psyche and the laws of action and reaction that accompany each sound, movement and posture. The meditations as kriyas code this science into specific formulas we can practice to get specific results. Because it is so effective and exact, it can also lead to problems if not done properly.

Chanting the Panj Shabd— the primal or nuclear form of Scrt Nam— has profound energy within it because we are breaking the bij (seed or atom) of the sound, Sat Nam, into its primary elements. You may use this chant in any position as long as you adhere to the following requirements:

1.Keep the spine straight.

2.Focus at the Brow Point.

3.Use the "L” form of meditation.

4.Vibrate the Panj Shabd in all three languages—

human, lover, and divine.

5. Use common sense without fanaticism.

The timing can be decreased or increased as long as you maintain the ratio of spoken, whispered, and silent chanting—always end with I minute of complete stillness and silence. Yogi Bhajan said, at the Winter Solstice of 1972, that a person who wears pure white and meditates on this sound current for 2Vi hours a day for one year, will know the unknown and see the unseen. Through this constant practice, the mind awakens to the infinite capacity of the soul for sacrifice, service, and creation.

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soor, pig, is the worst of all abuse. It means that you have no sensitivity to what is going on. Mud and silk are the same to you. You know how pigs are. You clean them and do everything to educate them and when they graduate, they go into pig shit and do their thing. It is a very sad experience to be stimulated and not ejaculate. It's very boring. Avoid the company of people who will put you in that situation.

Q: You mentioned that sex should only take place in a relaxed manner. At the same time, a lot of people have phobias and fears about sex. Should you resolve your sexual phobias before engaging in sex?

Yogi Bhajan: I understandthe phobias and I understand that impotency comes from phobias. There are internal blocks and external blocks. The external blocks are triggered by the female and the internal blocks are from the male, his own force. Eventually I have to discuss that, too. I don't think that we should hold more than two courses per year but gradually we are covering a lot of areas, slowly and efficiently.

I want to talk to you about using your subconscious energy to penetrate through your fears and phobias. During these courses we have been emphasizing basic information and philosophy, not the practical aspects. I think that in the next course I will arrange one day as a workshop and I will demonstrate techniques for renewing yourself and I will get into the practical applications of all these teachings.

Q: Previously you spoke to us about the necessity of the glands to secrete sufficiently so that the urethra will have the proper alkaline levels and not become irritated by the seminal fluid during ejaculation. How much time" does it normallytake for that to occur?

Yogi Bhajan: Because you asked the question, I am obliged to reply correctly; the minimum maturity time is ten days. If you decide you would like to have intercourse on Friday, then you must begin to prepare for it on Wednesday, a week before that Friday.

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that could not digest his food if he did not have intercourse two times a day. His doctor prescribed it. I had to counsel his wife to accommodate him. One day she said, "Well, you are not going to eat today." He said, "Why?" She said, "I am not going to be responsible for your indigestion and I'm not available."

You must understand that each human being has adifferent metabolism, a difference in need. We are discussing the central line of it, the mean, and we are presenting one extreme to the other. I have seen people who are very sexual, into it too much and in their maturity, their metabolism changes and they become subnormal in their sexual drive.

Q: In some of the ancient books, the sex act is called the "holy of holies." Why is that?

Yogi Bhajan: Because it is the holy of holies. If it had not been performed, you would not be sitting in this room. It is your fundamental act. If it is performed totally as it should be, it is very holy, very meditative, and very excellent. It is a most beautiful thing. It is very, very calming. The idea of it, entering into that idea, and getting into it, thinking about it, preparing for it, and having her prepare for it, too, and then having it; it's a lovey-dovey thing.

I'm not talking about this pistoning—stand up, kick the tree, 'just shake the tree' a little bit, and shake yourself and shake her and it's all over. That's love American style. I'm not a part of it. In reality, there's a human grace and both graces join their hands together.

Q: Is all creativity based on sexuality?

Yogi Bhajan: Yes. All creativity is based on your sexual potency and the direction of it. There are no two ways about it. That direction determines how you control your sex, how you control your temper, how you control your tempo, how you control yourself. How you control your­ self affects how you control your environments; how you control your environments is how you project what your environments will be and what they will produce for you. That is the law of creativity. It is totally rhythmic and there is no gap in it.

Q: You talked about frequency of intercourse. What practices can the man use during his wife's pregnancy to curb his sexual appetite?

Yogi Bhajan: Actually the man has no real problem. He can be as sexual or as celibate as he wants. You can use Breath of Fire to totally regulate your urgencies. I will give you the details of this in the next course.

Q: What do you think about having sex without ejaculating? In a book that is not commonly available,

the author says that it doesn't matter what the frequency of intercourse is, as long as the man doesn't ejaculate, but controls his sexual energy The book is supposedly based on an ancient Chinese text,

Yogi Bhajan: Yes, there is one very beautiful group who preach that you should never ejaculate but transmute the energy upward. Their leader died of cancer of the prostate,

1want you to understand. God is never wrong. Please, if you ever have intercourse, you must ejaculate—if not into the woman, then in the bathroom. Don't carry it. That is ridiculous. Who taught you those things? Those ideas are inhuman,'-.'

One day when I was out at my ranch,! was talking with that stallion, Mantequifla. 1said, "Mantequilia, whenever people come around you, you get horny/* That beautiful horse looked at me and he ejaculated right there! I thought to myself, he understood the whole thing, I was very glad that although he was a Spanish horse, he understood English, Then while I was looking at him, he did that little whinny that horses do with their lips; 1did it back to him; we were thanking each other.

Are you less intelligent than Mantequilla? That horse understood it. These things like holding your ejaculation are crazy. Go by God's way. Get to God by God's way. Don't create your own nonsense.

Once I met ayogi who was prolonging his life. He was doing a very particular pranayam with honey, which I knew. The honey was in a container, which allowed it to ooze out very slowly, drop by drop. He correlated his breath with the drops so that he savoured each drop, constricting his breath until

He said, "J want to expand and extend my life/'

I said, "Are you crazy? It is so costly to get all this honey. Then putting all the honey in your body is too much, plus doing all this pranayam business is just too heavy. I don't think you are supposed to do it" But he wouldn't listen to me. He might have extended his life if he had, but he died of lung cancer, which was ridiculous.

>I think all of these people who are doing these weird things are very self-destructive and very un-Godly. I only share God's way with you. If you believein sex, fine. If you don't believe in sex, and you don't want to have sex, then God will make you impotent anyway, so what's the big deal?

'You never see 'a man being -Very sexy ...when he is -92. His whole body will shake. If you don't want your body to shake, then try to control and proportion your sexual energy. Plan it. It is the same thing that I have said to you. You have "X" amount of energy. It is yours and it cannot be anyone else-s. It is:,your free choice to use it the way you want. You can control it, you can proportion it, you can

dish it, you can destroy it. But with the same energy, you can create an empire, you can create a heaven or you can create a-hell. ■

Q: Is there any way to tell when the urethra has the proper alkaline balance?

Yogi Bhajan: Yes. Just press the tip of the penis and you will find something coming out ofit.

Q: After strenuous exercise, like working up a lot of body heat playing soccer, is there a proper way to cool down?

Yogi Bhajan: I can tell you what we did when I was young. We used to play soccer for about three hours and work up such a sweat that we were absolutely wet as hell. Then we would eat. We would sit on the ground and eat and fall asleep on the spot, some of us into our own plates. That's the truth. We would sleep for about an hour and then we would work out again for about three hours.

We would get home late at night and immediately lay out on our beds. Our servants would remove our clothes, and we would go straight into a beautiful hot tub of water. We would lie there for 10-15 minutes, come out, towel off, relax for a few minutes, and then get back in for a beautiful cold shower. We would dry off again, put on our night clothes and go to the kitchen and eat—maybe 30 chapatis, something like that. Then some people would regularly be carried from the kitchen to their beds. I never suffered any injury whatsoever.

Now at my age, 52, I am not supposed to eat butter, and I'm not supposed to eat this, and I'm not supposed to do anything. I'm not even supposed to breathe. But in those days, 12 chapatis made with cauliflower and two pounds of butter and eaten straight with four kilos of yogurt used to be an ordinary breakfast, plus a couple of quarts of but­ termilk. Furthermore, the body was so skinny that every pair of knickers I wore would fall off. I was never naked, thanks to our underwear,

Then I came to America. I think the air here isvery bad and the water is terrible. I have no complaint about America except that the water has no minerals and it is not healthy water. Healthy water can take care of a lot of problems for you.

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