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Sibling conflict

"Why can't our kids just get along? Why must they always fight?" Parents get tired of the teasing, competing. They can't understand why their children can't leave each other alone, and just be friends. "Who needs it?" parents ask.

The answer is "the children do." Fighting is not a sign of children not getting along. It is how they get along using conflict to test their power, establish differences. Children compete for dominance, parental attention, parental support. When we are children, our brothers and sisters are our first friends and first enemies. Many experts say that the relationship among brothers and sisters explains a great deal about family life, especially when brothers and sisters often spend more time with one another than with their parents.

Studies have shown that sibling relationships between sister-sister pairs and brother-brother are different. Sister pairs are the closest. Brothers are the most competitive. Sisters are more supportive of each other. They are more talkative, frank, and better at expressing themselves and sharing their feelings.

On the other hand, brothers are usually more competitive with each other. The major exception to this is identical twins for whom similarity creates an unusual intimacy. The more alike they are, the closer they feel.

Experts agree that the relationship among siblings is influenced by many factors. For example, studies have shown, that both brothers and sisters become more competitive and aggressive when their parents treat them even a little bit differently from one another. But parental treatment is not the only factor. Genetics, gender, life events, people, and experiences outside the family all shape the lives of siblings.

Comprehension/Interpretation

Exercise 1. Read the text once again. Find three-five sentences showing what the author thinks about families.

a) ______________________________________________________________

b) ______________________________________________________________

c) ______________________________________________________________

d) ______________________________________________________________

e) ______________________________________________________________

Exercise 2. Tick the statements that are mentioned in the article.

1. Parents get tired of siblings argument.

2. Parents quite understand their children.

3. Parents want their children to leave them alone (оставить в покое).

4. Children fight for dominance and parent's attention.

5. Siblings are our oldest friends in life.

6. Some siblings have good relationships, but other siblings have bad relationships.

7. Sibling relationships are among the most important relationships in life.

8. Sisters get along better with their sisters than with their brothers.

9. Females and males generally have different sibling relationships.

10. Siblings spend a lot of time together because they have to.

11. There are many causes of good and bad sibling relationships.

12. Research has shown that siblings hate to fight.

13. When parents treat each child a little differently, the children get along better.

Exercise 3. Read the seven predictions again. In pairs or small groups, answer the questions for each prediction.

  1. Do you think it will be a good thing or a bad thing?

  2. Is this already happening in your country?

  3. Do you think it will happen in the future?